Pornography: what do you think?

I dont like porn. But there are times when i am very horny and i will look at porn to satisfy my lust. But once its over i feel horrible and dirty. So for the most part i try to avoid it. Not a big fan of it

 

I have nothing against pornography, and don't understand why it is regarded as dirty or bad. It can be a great way to explore your sexual side without fear of being judged. Of course porn does not promote intimacy, but it definitely doesn't kill it if you do not have it to begin with. If you have a partner I can understand feeling ashamed of looking at it while you're with them, but if there's no partner, what harm is done?

As for being all about the body and lust, there are all kinds of pornography. I take back a bit here about pornography not promoting intimacy because erotica, written porn, can very much take the focus of the sexual act and body and put it into the dialogue, characters, emotion, and intimacy. I find that pictures drawn by artists can convey intimacy by again focusing on the energy and emotion, rather than the body and sex. For example, I very much like the image here (don't worry, fully clothed, SFW) despite being a straight male because of how intimate they seem, and the emotion conveyed in it.

 

Porn is way too complicated for a single simple answer.

 

I love porn. A healthy amount of it, that is. It can probably be a bad thing if all you do is watch porn, and never masturbate without it or have reallife experiences with someone else, because that way it might get in the way of reality. But if you can find a healthy balance I don't see the problem with it. For me it's just an addition to what I already do/have, not a substitute.

 

Not a fan. I watched it once, felt super guilty. Not going to go back!

 

I do not like it . i think its , if in a relationship , like emotionally cheating . it gives unhealthy standards and just makes me feel deppressed after getting off to porn . and i am not ashamed of gay or such its just porn mak s me feel. wrong and dirty

 

Agree with most above. Its most definetally desensitizing. sometimes just icky crud./ ill pass
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I don't think I would have remained sane without looking at hot guys on the Internet. So, my vote is that porn is good.

 

Basically, it's for some people, and it's not for others. The 'actors' who perform do it willingly and get paid. It is a huge industry. I personally don't feel bad by it.

We live in a culture where you can't watch a TV show without sex scenes, so it doesn't feel weird to myself.

If it doesn't hurt anyone, what's the issue?

 

I think the way people view pornography is more of an inhibitor of intimacy than the pornography itself. It can be viewed as a dirty, shameful thing to enjoy and in turn this can cause people who do enjoy it to be overwhelmed with guilt and shame. I can certainly see how some may become addicted to it, just as people are capable of becoming addicted to a wealth of things when they become associated with a certain feeling/become a habit people are unsure how to break, but I do not think pornography itself should be blamed for intimacy issues.

I get no pleasure from pornography at all, at least as a way of entertaining myself sexually. It does nothing for me sexually and certainly does not stimulate my brain enough to keep me interested. I too was exposed from a young age, but I think that helped me view it as nothing to be ashamed of. There is good pornography, and bad pornography, and a whole lot of just-OK pornography. Some have story lines that make you feel involved in an emotional sense, some focus solely on what I can only call fucking.

Whilst there is a wealth of easy to access pornography that focuses solely on wham, bam, thank you ma'am type scenarios I think this overshadows the art of a good pornographer. Some of the available works I would call art, whatever the sexual content. I'm sure there are plenty of people who would disagree, but some of it I can look at and see it as living, sensual art. I can't deny how turned off a lot of pornography makes me, and I certainly cannot deny that I think some parts of the porn industry are appalling in terms of standard of care for those involved in the creation of pornography (at the lower end of the scale, mostly).

If it causes an issue or makes someone feel uncomfortable, it is bad for them. If those involved in the creation of pornography are exploited and abused, it is most definitely bad for them. If people use it as a replacement for real intimacy and/or relationships, then that is bad. However there are plenty of individuals who have a healthy view of porn, who use it as a supplement and enjoy it for what it is. There are those involved in the industry who are not strung out on drugs and are not abused, and that is good. So I cannot say it is wholly good or wholly bad, it is what it is and often what it is must be taken not from a generalisation but an understanding of the individual events surrounding both the porn in question and the person who is viewing it.

Ramble.

 

Porn is just an over done sexual fantasy, Often with actors who are genitally gifted.
To me it is an exaggeration of what sex is about, I personally don't mind it, but some of their acts are way overboard and will never happen in my life.

 

I think it depends on your situation.

I have never had a boyfriend, I have a lot of issues with guys (I'm incredibly shy around them) and I just find it easy to watch porn.

I don't love it. If I had the chance to actually connect with someone I liked, I would much rather do that.

But it isn't happening.

I think porn has totally fucked me up (no pun intended.) But I think that if I had never watched it, I would have been REALLY REALLY messed up. I think that porn is a way for you to release your tensions.
I think that a lot of us can agree - when you first start masturbating, it's kind of benign. As you get older and learn more things and see more "hot" people...things get more intense. I think that if porn wasn't around, we'd all be doing some things we shouldn't.

 

I am not a fan. I find lesbian porn obnoxious and directed at a male audience the times i actually watched. I find porn demeaning for both the viewer and the viewed. It makes sexual relations less than they are. This is the greatest intimacy a human can know and we turn it into a spectator sport for sale none the less. I don't mean to hurt the feelings of those that like to watch.

 

Ohh, it's not an insult! I know it isn't for everyone. I definitely think straight/lesbian/some gay porn is really messed up.

I just never saw it possible for me to be able to go the time I have without intimacy.. .and not get something else. Maybe I'm just stupid, but I think a lot of us go through that. We don't have that connection. So yeah, we look for it.

 

Wow, I'm surprised at the amount of people who felt guilty about watching porn. I mean, there's nothing wrong with not liking it, but I don't see why it's bad for you (as long as it's not an addiction, or replacement for a real person in your life).

I view it as a very healthy outlet for one's sexual drive when one is single. It's our nature to build up sexual tension, the instinct to reproduce. When you're not in a relationship, there's nowhere for that tension to go, so porn serves as a healthy outlet for it. I agree of course that porn is a hollow depiction of sex, but I know that. I don't have any illusions as to the fakeness of it, it's just paid actors doing their job. I don't think that detracts anything from real sexual experiences, as long as you know the difference. It hasn't changed my views regarding my own sexuality; I still view sex as something to do with someone you love, and would never just hook up with someone (my own personal feeling). Nor has it made me hypersexual. I can easily imagine a relationship with someone without sex. To me, what's more important is the emotional intimacy; having someone you can trust, someone who completely understands you and likes what they see.

As for watching porn in relationships, I still feel that's fine, but to a certain degree. My feeling is that if two partners have differing sexual drives (one wants more sex, while the other wants less), porn can serve as a healthy supplement to regular intimacy, to allow the partner with a greater sexual drive to relieve themselves without creating tension in their less-driven partner. What's key to this working out in my opinion is being open with one's partner about it, assuring them that the pornography is not a replacement for them, nor does it come close to being the same. I personally would probably not feel the need to watch porn while I was in a relationship, but I would be alright with my partner watching it. In fact, even if they preferred porn to real sex, I'd be fine with it. You see, some people have issues when it comes to sexual intimacy, or they simply don't desire it. I'm ok with that, since I don't view relationships as being defined by sexuality. It's just something that couples can do when they're in a relationship, but it's not crucial, at least to me.

 

You certainly are not stupid. I have been with someone in my life for 40 plus years and so don't have those lull down times. I do masturbate as we all do or should to my way of thinking. But I guess what you say is somewhat true if people are without partners. I could not imagine watching porn with my partner when we could be doing the scene ourselves. hehehehehe Hugs love

 

l agre about lesbian porn. or most, andthe stuff that is good costs money which is never going to happen lol.

l don't like straight porn either. Mostly l've watched just solo girls and now watch free webcams. These girls are in their own homes and it's usually a gig to make some money on the side. Many gay and straight boys there too. l do feel more dirty about the ones in Eastern Europe who try really hard to get tips and you know this is probably their only source of income, l don't watch those lol.

l don't think if had a partner l would, or at least very rarely.

But no shame about porn. l think when l was younger l did have some shame and that l wasn't turned on just by looking at female bodies, this isn't the case now and it turns me on.

Some find it demeaning. l've already been down that road with that school of that. l feel more comfortable with myself as someone who responds directly to sexual stimuli now. l don't know, it's just nice that l can be turned on by something that takes no effort. Around 25 or so l really stopped thinking about it and it happened.

 

I'm gonna be honest here, I don't watch porn. At all. I've only seen some Finnish porn (long story), and when the Sesame Street youtube channel got hacked hahahaahha. Also I'm not really attracted to a typical porn star, so I wouldn't find it sexually stimulating. Sex also kinda grosses me out.

It doesn't do much for me, really. No shame in watching it though if that's your thing. I'd rather use my vivid imagination, and usually written porn does it better for me.

 

I was introduced to porn very young as well. I think I have an addiction to porn, erotica, dating sites, etc. I am a very visually stimulated person and i can binge on porn and fapping. Porn has also confused me sexually. In porn I was viewing so much stuff I thought it was my sexuality. I am currently trying to stop porn and erotica but barely make a week. When I lapse, I feel horrible. Good luck man.