Am I gay? Please answer me. I'm sick of waiting for someone to reply

It sounds like you might be bi. But, no matter what you're unique.

 

Yeah, you seem bisexual, probably like 2.7 on the kinsey scale. A good way to tell is by who you masturbate to

 

You need to take time, and not worry about sex or sexuality just yet. You are only 16. Go ahead and have fantasies about both types of partners you think are attractive.

Eventually you will have the opportunity to have some play with a guy, and see if you like it as much as the fantasy. It might be only fantasies you like about guys, not really doing anything.

At least were are now entering an era when guys can try the same sex, and then be straight if they want to be. Or have girls they enjoy, but a guy is really what they want in bed.

But it is best not to be a two-timer, and always practice safe sex. You don't want to meet a guy and fall deeply in love with him in every way, and find out you also have a baby on the way. Or even worse, decide you want to settle down a bit with one girl, but find out you are HIV positive from one night only you had sex with a guy.

Be safe, and not sorry.

 

Fantasise about whoever you want. Gay, straight, doesn't matter. Sexuality is fluid, and you're young - you really don't need to label yourself just yet. You say there's a girl that you're interested in at the moment. Great! Pursure it, if you want, see where things go. Maybe in the future you'll end up crushing on a member of the same sex. Who knows? Eventually, you'll get a better idea of what your orientation is. Maybe you're straight, maybe you're bi. You don't need to decide that right away. Go with the flow, that's my motto.

I indentify as "queer", simply because I'm not sure what I am. I'm not 100% straight, but I'm not 100% gay, I'm somewhere in between. Instead of labelling myself, I just take it one day at a time.

Best of luck!

 

I know exactly what you mean. It's that feeling you're doing something you're not supposed to do, something that's supposed to be unexciding, which is exactly what makes it exciding. I don't know how you can explain that to other peole, but yeah I really get what you mean.

For me, though, it was the guys that did it as well (though only in porn, not in reallife), and that feeling you talk about slowly decreased and turned into just really liking what I saw. It might just be that that's what's gonna happen for you as well. That you thinking it's just that excited feeling of doing or thinking about something "wrong" is just an unconscious way of denying there's some actual attraction there, which was definitely the case for me.

In any case I wouldn't worry about it too much, though; whatever gets you off. If there's something more there, I'm sure you'll find out eventually.

 

Well its just your hormones kicking cause your young. I think you'll know what you really like when you reach early or mid 20's...So just masturbate of what you think you like or experiment with both gender maybe that will tell what you really like.

 

Yes, you're gay. ?

 

A lot of people have given you their take on your situation. I don't know what you're "waiting" for. Everyone is right, that's a very young age to know exactly what your orientation is. For me, at 16, I knew deep down I was gay, but I clouded everything with denial. Only you can know for sure the level of denial you are living in. From what you are telling us, we assume you may be bisexual (Kinsey 3, if you want an exact answer). We offer suggestions, support, experience, knowledge, opinions, but we can't exactly nail it on the head as to what your sexuality is 100%. The information given is supposed to help you THINK. If you can't come to a conclusion on your own, you should find comfort in being unsure. Patience, maturity, emotional intelligence, acceptance, and respect for yourself is key here.

With that being said, I have never heard of someone masturbating to the sound of gay porn. I believe that is the same as watching the porn. Okay, so now you say you have it on mute, and you don't take a glimpse at it somehow, even though you are operating the website. That is still getting off to gay porn, isn't it? I mean, you are on a gay porn site (although not with eyes/ears) masturbating. I think that indicates a level of homosexuality, but that's just my opinion. If you want an answer, I can give one to you, and you'll rebute with more of your ill-conceived logic - whatever. I think you are just waiting to hear what you want to hear, and at this point, I have no idea what that is.

 

Please have some patience. We all have our own lives, and it can take time to see the thread or come up with a meaningful reply.

No one can tell you if you are gay, straight, bisexual, or what ever only you can answer that. You are you young and there is plenty of time left. You are clearly curious, so why the need to rush it? My advice is always the same, just run with it an see what happens.

 

Yeah, I read your above posts and came to the same conclusions.

Holding hands with a woman is not a sexual interest. Visiting gay porn websites and masturbating because it's taboo indicates a stronger sexual interest, but I'm not a doctor.

I feel that when you re-post with arguments, that you're really only arguing with yourself. You're projecting the thoughts that should be happening inside your own head, but you're in denial of some kind (I don't know what, so don't ask). You're externalizing your doubt onto us, and we're just here to give you our support. I had a lot of issues growing up because I had no one to talk to. I was too scared to even think about visiting a site like EC; I would have never dreamed of doing so, because I didn't want any of this to be true. Pat yourself on the back for being proactive. I hope you find what you're looking for.