I have... A DATE! Advice?

Flirting should come naturally, the best advice I can give on that is to not try too hard to flirt, just do what feels right.

Don't try to act like someone you think he'll like, be who you are and show off your best traits! You wouldn't want him falling for something that's not you!

 

Don't be too forward with information, leave some mystery, in case there's a second or fourth date

Relax... breathe... and relax some more.

Good luck! :3

 

I can relate as my defenses are guarded often.

I found that smiling just a little once in awhile, and not overdoing a lot of compliments works wonders.

Subtle can be very effective on a first date, and a lot less stressful.

Although if you're too casual and laid back, it might appear there's no attraction at all. :/

So adjust as things progress.

 

Well, if you guys go out for drinks. Inhibitions might be lowered, and it could be easier to be more direct with each other.

Constant brief physical contact here or there is a clear cue. (Hand on his knee for a tiny moment, leg nudging, brushing your hand up against his once in awhile, sweeping some imaginary lint from his shoulder.)

If he initiates any of these let him lead, as I'm assuming he's a bit more experienced dating other guys. :3

And if you feel a little brave, you could ask for a kiss. Since you're leaving in a month, might as well risk the question if you feel up to it. ^-^

 

In regards to your worries about the date, don't ^_^. That's one of the nice things about relationships with guys, is that dates are usually more about having fun, not sizing each other up like hetero dates often are. Focus on having a great time, talking about shared interests, etc. If you guys both like the same game, talk about it. There's no need to impress him, just focus on having a fun time. Pretty much act like you would with a guy friend, except when you feel like it, toss a little flirtation his way (like a charming smile, or a saucy joke, etc). Don't feel like you have to do anything though, don't try to plan "tactics". Focus on chatting about things you like, joking, etc. The flirting parts will just come naturally. And this is all coming from a guy who's pretty introverted, so I'm no George Clooney xD.

 

I agree with 4AllEternity.

Once the date starts, all pre-meditations go out the door for the most part.

If you two like each other, conversation and interest will come naturally

 

I'm sorry that you got your thread buried that fast. First, I'm really excited for you, and I hope it goes well. I think if it does, this will give both of you critical exploration time that you need.

As far as how to behave, I'm not sure how much you want to take my advice, since I've only dated three people, and none of those ventures panned out. (Mormon girl, total fail; random hookup, who didn't want to contact me again; pretty self-centered guy I actually was legitimately trying to date, didn't want to see me again after second date.)

My strategy has been not to act differently. I don't treat it like an interview. I'm just being myself. I put in a tiny bit more effort than I would just with friends, so I'm watching for things like my manners, making sure I don't interrupt or dominate the conversation. I try to engage by asking questions of my date in a nonthreatening way that demonstrates interest. I think the key is to be engaged and be connected, but don't come on too strong. I don't know how to flirt, so I just don't. My view is that I don't want to date anyone who requires me to talk in code. So if you don't know how to flirt with a guy, don't. Just show that you're interested, and be courteous. The rest should work itself out. Let those knightly qualities do work.

 

*awaits anxiously* >_<

 

Hope it goes well for you man