Is it weird that I am rarely attracted to straight women?

I'm still figuring things out myself but I know personally that it took awhile for me to look at any guy. I would have crushes on guys and my interests were always attractive to me but I would say it wasn't until the last year or two that I'm actually like checking out every man I talk to.

I think a lot of it has to do with what society teaches us and pushes us to be growing up.

 

Same here! so it's not that rare, but I'm a guy and it's kind of in reverse; I've never really had a romantic crush on a guy, unless he also liked me... but not everybody of course (I've a stalker,, or two) but I am aesthetically/physically attracted to a lottttttttttttttt of people of both sexes, though I only want to have sexual relations to guys

 

Consider it a blessing. So annoying when you constantly crush on people that you know are straight.

 

I know I'm not much help since I'm confused and questioning too, but I've found this applies to me as well. I have no idea what it means.

 

I can't help you on the guy front. Generally speaking, as soon as I find out a guy is attracted to me it sends me running the other direction...which I'm thinking should probably have struck me as odd before now.

Or maybe you just call being attracted to a straight girl something else. I've always "noticed" other girls, which I thought was kind of an admiration or slight envy of them being hot. But I have recently realized that this noticing turns into a crush when I find out a girl is gay. So, I dunno maybe I feel like I need validation to acknowledge it as a crush.

Edited to add: Of course this is a total case of the blind leading the blind here. Or should I say the questioning leading the questioning. So take whatever I say with a grain of salt. Just wanted to let you know that I can relate.

 

That would be the most epic gaydar trick ever. "Oooh she's so amazing and I can't take my eyes off of her. That means she is totally bi/gay!"

 

I'm generally the same way. Of course there are exceptions (including a coworker that I was in love with for several years), but they're rare. Like you, I'll often think "hey, she's really cute" and wonder about her orientation, but as soon as I know a girl is into other girls I'm immediately more attracted/interested. I think it's sort of a mental defense mechanism.

A really attractive guy will have more immediate impact on me, but I have absolutely no desire to do anything with him physically. I only have one female friend, all the rest are guys, so the new people I'm meeting are usually male as well. When I found out a guy has feelings for me, it has no impact on me other than making me feel guilty because I know what it's like to be in love with somebody that can't love you back.

 

I'm kind of the same way. I've never had a crush on a straight woman and I mean never. I thought I kind of did once but I later found out she was secretly bisexual

 

i don't know about anyone else, but the bolded text above makes perfect sense to me.

i think that it might just be an inhibition as a result of social conditioning or maybe a natural, subconscious one to not presume that a woman is an option without something to warrant such thoughts? with men it would feel different because men have never not been an option...? i don't know if that even makes sense to anyone but me.

Kgirl, you asked if the way you felt made you demisexual. there is the possibility that you may be a demi-lesbian (or a demisexual lesbian or a demi-bisexual with an inclination towards your own gender or whatever other label you prefer), but i can't really say. for me it has always been painfully clear that i wasn't attracted to ANYone to the point that i seriously thought i was asexual. a gray-asexual or demisexual is essentially like an asexual until a connection is made to make them feel otherwise. for you that doesn't seem to be the case, at least in relation to men, which (for whatever reason) makes me inclined to think that it wouldn't be that way for you with women either if there wasn't something unconsciously preventing you.

but then again, i don't really know. once again it's like "the blind leading the blind" because i'm not exactly knowledgeable or experienced when it comes to sexual attraction. sorry.

 

It's not weird. I'm never ever attracted to straight men. If I know I don't have a chance, I just won't like them that way. It's a good thing at the end of the day, I figure.

 

I kind of feel the same way. Even if I get strong feelings or hints that a woman is gay, yet I don't know with 100% certainty that she is, I will still start feeling more attracted to her. If I know for sure that she is gay, whether it's because she's mentioned it herself or because of something she's said, I will instantly want to know more about her. This could be because I'm actually interested in her, or because it's just nice to know that there are other gay women around and that I possibly could become friends with her.

But honestly, I haven't really been through the whole liking-a-straight-girl thing. I hear about it a lot, but I've yet to know how it feels personally. Which is probably a good thing? I feel like if I knew a girl was straight, I wouldn't pay it much mind, unless I felt she was really leading me on. Maybe it's because I'm still adjusting in some way to my sexuality (meaning being out of the closet and actually being with other women), and so to start crushing on a straight girl would just add more confusion and frustration. Straight celebrity crushes are a different story, though. :lol:

 

IKR? I can also relate to the thing about romantic feelings, I think.