Dating a Smoker

Past ex was a smoker, incredibly polite though. He'd leave the room I was in so I didn't cough. He smoked a lot less when together with me.

So he might curb his habit a little while with you.

 

I have and believe me, not a good idea. He smelt, and I just couldnt go near him. I would always put my hand over my nose while he smoked. Id rather date a nonsmoker.

 

Aw thats so considerate!

I haven't been a relationship, ,but I would quit cigarettes for him, but not marijuana :lol:

 

l have dated smokers. lm an ex smoker since 2005. l truly do not find it that gross and cannot bring myself to be concerned about any of the things in your alphabetized list lol.

edit:as long as lm never asked for money.

 

When you're in lust and love, it's easy to overlook a little thing like smOking. ;-)

Done it several times. Though for LTR it would be a deal killer

 

Almost all of the people I've dated since I started smoking (high school) have been smokers as well, but I have dated one non-smoker. I would never smoke around her (she was a gymnast, and therefore very health-conscious), and would brush my teeth/use mouth wash and change clothes if I had a cigarette right before going over to her house. Although we weren't dating for THAT long, it was never an issue between us.

For me, it definitely does help me with stress. My job can be physically, psychologically and emotionally draining, and a cigarette on my lunch break and at the end of the work day are often exactly what I need. I also have some pretty tough emotional issues that become quickly overwhelming, and smoking helps with that too. It forces me to sort of take a time out for a few minutes and collect my thoughts.

I am the type of person that will ALWAYS ask others if they mind if I have a cigarette in front of them. I have several friends with severe asthma that really can't be around smoke, and I am 100% ok with refraining while I'm with them. My parents are aware that I smoke, but I know they don't like it, so I would never smoke in front of them and do my best not to smell of smoke when I have one while I'm visiting them. I think as long as everybody is respectful of each other, it shouldn't cause any problems. As the non-smoker, I think you should be mindful of this: being respectful not only means that they are conscientious about their habit and how it effects you, but it also means that you should not place pressure on them about it unless they make it clear that they want a motivation to quit. Even though you are looking out for their health (and even though they know this), that type of thing will quickly cause resentment and possibly deception. I have a friend whose girlfriend thinks he quit smoking 6 months ago, and he has to hide whenever he has a cigarette, just in case somebody who knows his girlfriend sees him!! Definitely not an ideal situation...

Good luck!!

 

My ex girlfriend was a smoker, but she only smoked when she was stressed. It would drive me nuts because I could obviously smell the smoke on her but she would deny it. I just wish she would have been honest with me. It's good that your boyfriend is honest about his smoking habits and doesn't smoke around you!

 

I went on one date with a smoker and that was enough for me! Smoking and drinking are my two major relationship deal breakers

 

Never dated before, so I don't know if this counts lol. Teacher at my school smokes and drinks (obviously not at school) but in his own time, and obviously he knows his limits. I dont mind at all, he's the nicest guy I've ever met. The smell is noticeable, especially on his breath, but I've gotten use to it - and I actually enjoy it.

 

I kinda like the smell of smoke

 

If you don't like it or know it'll be a problem.
Make them aware now.

My ex didn't have an issue when we were first together, then he wouldn't shut up about it.

Very annoying.

 

This sounds really odd, but my dad used to smoke and is really the only smoker I've known. I hated him smoking and was so glad when he eventually quit, but now when I smell someone smoking I kind of have a comforting association with it... reminds me of my dad I guess I don't hate the smell at all.

Having said that, the fact it reminds me of my dad may also put me off kissing someone who smells of smoke lol

 

It sounds to me you just need to break up with him now. If he was the right one you would love everything about him just as he is! You would not want to change one hair on his head if you could. Everybody has faults and when you fixate on one bugging you like this early on in a relationship it is a bad omen. So if he needs to change to make you happy; forget it!

He will end up resenting you for pressering him into something before he is ready. Smoking is a hard thing to quit, and on the other side of the coin you must not be the one for him either. I am a 2+ pack a day smoker and have been a smoker daily since 16 and I am 40 now. So we are talking a lot of years now.

My man is not a smoker. He had never given me any sort of shit about it not once, he completely accepts me faults and all, but my love has grown so strong for him he inspires me to be the best woman I can be. So in the past patches, pills, and gum did not work for me.

For him I moved to BLU electronic cigs which have no smoke or bad odors and work well for me. He noticed right away that I cared enough about him to change my bad habbit for his comfort and our health.

The bottom line is he did not have to ask; I allready knew and cared enough to change my bad habbit for his comfort. I also want us to have as many years of life as possable. If he had bugged me about it like my ex did, it would not have helped just caused resentments. The key is I had to want it bad enough! Good luck! June

 

Well i smoke, cant say ive smoked long sinse im only 17 but its been about 6 years.
My ex girlfriend acted like she didnt have a problem with it when we started dating after like 7 months it began to piss her off. I would smoke less around her anyway, and make sure i washed my hands and brushed my teeth, or chewed gum if we were out. She started throwing the hints she didnt want me to do it or show mt how bad for my health it was.
It started to annoy her more and more and i kelp saying id stop, but told her if she pressures me to stop that will make it harder. That is true, if you keep telling him you want him to stop it will fustrate him and make him feel bad about doing it but prob wont stop him.
Yeah anyway it just got worse until after like a year of us being together she said, i cant be with a smoker, you have cigs or me. Worst decision ever, although i really cared about her i just couldnt kick the habbit, and the fact she was prepared to leave me because of it said to me 'well she doesnt care about me enough to look past it.' And i then just started lying to her about it. I didnt ever stop smoking but i did cut down, i wouldnt have ever directly lied to her about still doing it but while she didnt ask i didnt tell.
Also just wanted to answer does it really stop you being stressed. No it doesnt, when your stressed your heart rate goes up, you get the craving that you need to smoke even though that has nothing to do with the situation. Smoking then increases the heart rate, so your just furfulling an adiction not helping stress.

 

i only ever have dated smokers and i dont smoke.
didnt bother me in the slightest, well it did but i can tolerate it you know. chain smokers are a no no but occasional fag here and there throughout the day is fine imo. she would smoke around me but not excessively.

i didnt like the fact when i left her house i would smell of smoke but thats what a washing machine is for and a shower. so i got rid of the smell when i was home. its easy to get rid of the smell but in time i grew to like the musky smoker scent... like not the 'ive just smoked' scent, but the smell that lingered for a few hours after having a fag. im weird though so.

but it sounds like you dont like this guy enough if him smoking is that big a deal to you, if its that much of a deal now whats it gunna be like in 5 months time :s