Can somebody explain the reasoning behind this type of response?

Ok, so last friday I happened to be cruising a gay dating app out of sheer boredom. Was just looking to chat, and I spotted this very cute 25 year old twinkish guy who seemed very charming and nice. I said hello, expecting nothing in return (as is the usual case on there with eye-candy guys).. And a few minutes later I get a message saying, "hey, wanna come over ". I say, "sure, want to go for some late-night food in your part of town"? He agrees.


I get in my old van and go on a 20 minute drive over to his place at about 1 am in the morning... Get there, pick him up, we go have tea at the McD's in Walmart (haha, yes, it was still open that late!). Then I suggested that we part ways since the whole town/area had not much to offer in terms of a night-life. He invited me over to his place, just to show me around. (cough cough, hehe) Get to his place, he gives me a tour of his room and kitchen, we talk about politics and science (he's a bit of a geek)... And then a few hours later I say, "Oh ok, well i'm going to back home.. It was nice getting to know you." He gives me a warm hug, i reciprocate by doing the same and then kissing him on the neck. As soon as I do this, he french kisses me (leaving me stunned and in disbelief for a few seconds; how could such a sexy guy like ME of all people?!) , and we started making out, and it cascaded from there... Ended up getting naked and wild on his air mattress a few minutes later, and were doing all sorts of kinky fun stuff involving oral and butt-spanking and kissing and frotting (except for anal penetration)... We then both busted our nut around the same time, and were drenching in sweat and panting like dogs when we finished our little dalliance, lol. Then we dressed sort of awkwardly (without cleaning up), and he walked me out into the parking lot while lighting a cigarette to say good-bye. I asked to kiss him one more time on the cheek before I left, and he agreed--- but it was then that I noticed a fair bit of reluctance in his eyes.


Then I texted him the morning after, asking if he was down to grab some food later, no response... I take it that his intent was for it to be a one-time wonder.


Why did he sort of seduce me (well, i played a part in the seduction too) but then lose interest in going any further with me?


Was he lying when he said "you're so cute" during our fun time together? Was he maybe just trying to score with a cub once to see what it's like to be with someone who is not his type? Was he put off by my small dick size? (his was 8 inches!) Did he decide that I'm too weird of a person to have any meaningful relationship or dating experience with?


Is there any way I can find out the cause, without appearing too clingy/needy? I don't want to message him again, unless he messages first.


Thoughts?

---------- Post added 3rd Feb 2013 at 10:53 PM ----------

Ugh, I get attached too easily. That's one of my weaknesses. We talked for only a few hours before the dirty deed followed in suit, but I got a good vibe from it all at the time.. sigh.

 

Umm no, he basically came out not long after I learned to tie my shoelaces.

---------- Post added 3rd Feb 2013 at 11:12 PM ----------

And yet in person he was complaining to me about how flakey and uptight people here are compared to San Diego, where he's from. Strange.

 

Dmack, i'll take your advice and message him just once more in a week (so that it doesnt seem too needy) with what you suggested. Thanks!

And guys... I surprisingly dont feel broken over this. Just mildly bummed out and confuzzled.

 

Maybe it's all indicative of split personality disorder?

 

Honestly part of the reason I'm not left feeling all that damaged this time around is that I'm fascinated by what makes people tick.. And this is just the latest example.

---------- Post added 3rd Feb 2013 at 11:33 PM ----------

I should clarify that the app was geared more towards hookups than solid dating. But his profile said "looking for friendships and relationship." Nothing more, nothing less.

 

Rakkaus. No, he didnt hint directly at anything physical before we met. But yeah, i should have known better.

---------- Post added 3rd Feb 2013 at 11:37 PM ----------

You think so?

 

But that was counter-balanced by his profile summary being a 3-paragraph synopsis of how he's a "responsible independent-minded adult looking to befriend and socialize with other hardworking, ambitious adults." :/