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Should I ask him? And would you personally get the implication?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Niqk, Feb 6, 2013.

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  1. Niqk

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    Well, the person I like did mention that we should hang out. And I was thinking of asking him in a few days if he was free (neither of us are that free on that day, due to our time-tables, but there is a several hour slot available) on the 14th.

    If you received such a message, hanging out on the 14th, knowing it was February, would you get the hint? I mainly just want to talk with him, since I haven't seen him for sometime. Very likely, it will have to be on campus unless we agree somewhere outside there, which will prove very difficult for me on a week-day.
     
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  2. FemCasanova

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    Oh, that totally depends. Now that I have a gf, I totally am aware of the 14th. However, if I had not, and you had randomly asked me to hang out on the 14th, I probably wouldn`t catch the hint. I am terrible with dates and special dates, not to mention hinting. So it totally depends on what kind of a person he is, if he takes hints or not, if he pays attention to the callendar.... It`s risky, and I would at least not get upset that he does not automatically take it, if I were you. Some of us are unfortunately a little air-headed, and need an extra nudge or two. Would it be terrible for you to ask him if he`d consider it a date if he got asked out on Valentine`s day? Now that`s the kind of hint I can take, lol, at least if you ask me out on Valentine`s day a short while after.

    Good luck!
     
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    By hang out, I mean like a date. He already knows about my feelings, but since he's a bit of a romantic, he would probably find the idea of going out on Valentine's Day entertaining. I just don't want him to think I picked that day randomly without knowing what it meant.
     
    #3 Niqk, Feb 6, 2013
  4. Zaio

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    Honestly, I personally wouldn't get the hint. I always forget Valetine's date unless I look at the date on my computer, then I'll remember.

    I might catch on if you were to hint it was a date, but if that hint is Valetine's day, no I wouldn't. I'm also the romantic type by the way, so good luck with it.

    All the best.
     
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  5. Niqk

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    So should I just ask him if he wants to hang out on valentine's Day? Thing is we haven't seen each other in some time, and I'm worried of being direct.
     
    #5 Niqk, Feb 6, 2013
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