Hello, If you were over age 25 when you came ou; 1) was much worse than expected 2) was about what I expected 3) was much easier than expected
PROS AND CONS I IMAGINE. sorry for accidental caps there But anyway, "older''-people less likely to say you're confused. con-people second guessing you/wondering how you could hide so much/wondering who you really are, etc. especially if you were in heteroships. etc, etc.
"older" -- I object !!! :eek: When I started therapy a few months ago, my shrink kept saying that I seemed so sure, so confident about being gay. Well, that's probably because I had a hell of a lot longer than most of you to have the insanity in my head. I'd say about 10 years ago, I realized that I'm probably gay. But I honestly thought I'd just figure it out, say "ok I understand" and then i'd go back to living my heteronormative life. well, nope. What I think will be probably harder for someone whose "older" (ah hem) like me, is that I've had a lifetime of having relationships and intimacy with women. And thats what I know how to do. With men, well, I never looked at guys as a possible relationship. That wasn't going to happen. It was secretive, closeted. So I got to figure out how I move from that, to thinking about what my perfect man would be like. (I actually journaled about this, and had a great time listing all the qualities I'd like in a LTR or spouse in the future. While great sex is part of it, after all, its also about shared values, shared activities, respecting that I have kids and am a single Dad, and building a life together)
lmao. IDK, so many young teens here that l start to feel "older"myself but then l say something and of course someone else is 45 xD
