i forgot to tell you guys....

I can understand it. I feel like I can't call myself a lesbian just because i've had no experience with either gender. But experience doesn't matter. You know you like girls and don't feel the same about guys, right? If you say yes, then that makes you a lesbian. It doesn't matter if you've never had sex with a girl, you still know that you like girls. So don't feel bad about coming out, she may or may not believe you, but you are sure of your sexuality, and it doesn't matter who believes you.

 

So are you comparing yourself as a lesbian to her as a lesbian? well she probably realized she was a lesbian way before you and since shes had a gf and everything she's just more comfortable being a lesbian but that shouldn't make you feel insecure about it, When i finally came to terms that i was gay i compared myself to this other boy in my gym class and i felt wrong, i felt like i just "thought" i was gay and he was a real gay, but then i started joining forums etc. and noticed everyone's different so i stopped comparing.

 

Just because you haven't had the same experiences as her it doesn't mean you're "less of a lesbian" than she is. I know some people who are gay who choose to remain celibate. Doesn't make them any "less" gay. You don't have to be in a relationship or have sex with someone to know your sexuality. Think about it this way, a straight person is still straight even if they're a virgin and never had a relationship. I wouldn't worry about it so much. The important thing is that YOU know who you are and how you feel and accept yourself for who you are.

 

I never had a relationship with a girl when I came out as bi a few years ago. You don't have to be in a relationship to "prove" your sexuality. Wait for the right person to come around. You're still young. No need to rush it.

 

Based on personal experience I would stay away from doing online relationships. They very rarely work out well. Just enjoy being young and when the right girl comes along take it from there.

 

Oh I'm not just talking about the being real aspect of it. I've been in relationships online a few times with people I really cared about and one of the girls I met after a while and spent a lot of time with over the course of 2 years and she was completely different in person than she was online. That's why I'm saying be careful. Just trying to save you a bit of heartache since I've been in that situation before.

But like I said before just be happy with who you are and don't think you have to prove anything to anyone.

 

I think some people just feel like a relationship is only real if the person is physically there. They don't realize it's possible to have feelings for someone even if they aren't physically in front of you but there's also that issue of people can pretend they're someone they're not when you only talk to them online. Like they can alter their personality and make up anything about them self.

And even though it didn't work out with that girl doesn't mean it won't with someone else.

 

Don't get upset about it. Just be happy it happened and realize that you will find something even better with someone else even if you can't picture it now (based on personal experience).

 

Ah caffeine. I can't have it anymore because of medical reasons but I could drink a whole lot of it and be perfectly fine. I drank coffee and Monster alll the time.

 

Those things are really not good for anyone. I could only handle Monster (well I technically wasn't supposed to have it but I could handle it) because I have a heart condition where I'm not supposed to have anything that can accelerate my heart rate. Now I also have GI issues so my body does not react well to caffeine so I just stopped having it.