My sanity will not survive this day! (obs ranty)

...are you aware that you're mother's husband is abusive? Regardless of weather you get along sometimes or not, he's verbally/mentally abusing both you and your mother. You're not a "loser", you're not going to "fail at life" unless you believe what he tells you and let him control you. Even the most weird and unpopular kids can grow into amazing adults. You're not the same person you were in high school for the rest of your life, you have time to change that.


There's a condition where people can't tolerate certain sounds, often chewing. I can't remember what it's called, can anyone else?

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PHONOPHOBIA/MISOPHONIA:

Phonophobia (fear of sound) is an adverse emotional response to sound and often develops with an individual who has a significant collapsed tolerance to sound. They not only fear the sound of the environment they are experiencing in real time (right now) they worry about the sound that future events of the day or in the near future will produce. It can significantly interfer with a patients recovery as they seek or complete sound therapy. Phonophobia can take over ones life and make one feel they need to isolate themselves to survive. This is a recipe for disaster. It is critical that we keep our ears active to rebuild our tolerances to sound. That is why broadband pink noise is so crucial to bringing us back to the mainstream of life.

Misophonia (dislike of sound) is also an adverse response to sound no matter what volume the sound is. Typically misophonia characterizes an individual who reacts strongly to soft sounds and sometimes is further triggered by seeing the source of the offending sound. Common examples would include but are not limited to: the sound of people eating, smacking their lips, sniffing, the sound of certain consonants like p, s, or t, and repetitive sounds. These individuals do not have a collapsed tolerance to sound which would be evident in a Loudness Discomfort Level (LDL) test.

Hyperacusis is a collapsed tolerance to normal environmental sounds. If the hyperacusis patient IS also dealing with phonophonia and/or misophonia then their clinician needs to address these issues in addition to treating the patient for hyperacusis. It is also important to note that a person can have phonophobia and/or misophonia and not have hyperacusis at all. Sound confusing. Let's talk...

Let's, for sake of further clarity, discuss come common examples of misophonia. They are not a separate catagory of sound sensitivity because the issues we are about to talk do not involve loud sounds. Some individuals are not sensitive to loud sounds (in other words they have normal loudness discomfort levels - LDL's) but they are unable to tolerate the sound of people eating or chewing. Oddly enough they have no problem tolerating the sound of their own eating. These individuals have a difficult time eating with their family and friends and some insist on eating all by themselves. They become irritated or enraged at meals and sometimes. This is not hyperacusis. The patients primary goal would be to neutralize or refocus the dislike they have of these specific sounds. Most of these individuals live very normal lives with the only exception of being unable to tolerate all the dynamics of other people eating. Often these individuals have been unsuccessful finding any information about this condition. To the best of our knowledge no articles have been written in any qualified medical journal and no studies or research has been done about this. Patients seeking treatment from their clinician may have to copy the information from this website to help their doctor understand what is taking place here. Treatment for these patients comes from clinicians who have a specific protocol for misophonia. Search the network message board using the word 'misophonia' to learn more about this problem and protocols suggested. Usually these individuals are sensitive to particular sounds which are not loud in volume. For example, some individuals have a hearing sensitivity to certain consonants (i.e. s, t, p, c). Once again, although this is a sound sensitivity issue, this is not hyperacusis. It is misophonia.

Misophonia is a symptom which is misunderstood. The word 'misophonia' was invented by Dr. Pawel Jastreboff to help clear some of the misunderstanding. Aside from a misophonia protocol it is not clear whether broadband pink noise helps the patient improve their dislike of sound. Some individuals with misophonia have been diagnosed with an obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) and have sought treatment from a psychotherapist. To learn more about misophonia click on the link off our main menu on misophonia. Further resources include:

This is a link to a website dedictated to misophonia:

MISOPHONIA UK - Home page

 

Why forever? You think you`re going to be 18 and trapped in a house with your parents forever? Because chance of that happening is very low, unless they decide to try and chain you down in the basement.

I get that you are angry at this abusive idiot of a step-father. But you seriously need to stop being on their team! Every time you tell yourself that you`re a lazy idiot, you`re on their team. Every time you repeat to yourself something that a**-wipe is telling you, you`re on his team. Is that what you want? Help him bring you down?

You have to stop doing it.

Seriously.

You have to stop giving him the satisfaction, because he don`t deserve it. I grew up with an abusive father, I know very well what those bastards can do to you. But when it comes down to it, they can only do as much as we allow them to do. If we keep telling ourselves the same messed up things that they tell us, they win. If we hurt ourselves, because of something they said, they win. If we allow ourselves to believe that they are right, then they win. And guess what? Losers who need to put others down to feel better about themselves, like every abusive bastard on a power-trip out there, DOES NOT DESERVE TO WIN!

He doesn`t deserve it. He doesn`t know shit about how your life is going to turn out, or what you are going to do with it. He sure seems to be trying to influence it though. What better way to sabotage someone than making them think they`re a loser? By making them think that this is how their life is always going to be? He is sabotaging you, and by thinking he`s right, or even just repeating to yourself what he said, you are helping him sabotage you. What the heck does that guy know about anything? Not a damned thing!

Our lives aren`t set in stone, we decide what to make of it every day. There`s not a mistake that can`t be undone, there`s not a day that goes by without us having a chance to make a change. Remember that your life is yours, and you can spend it exactly how you want to. You`re not going to live at home forever. Focus on your school-work, work on the grades, figure out what you want to do with your life that can make you happy. And once you`re out, you`re out. Then he`ll be completely powerless, and it`s all up to you. But while you still have to live at home, remember that the friend you need the most in the world right now is you! You deserve to have yourself as an ally of you, not him. Sqrew what he says, thinks or feels. Sqrew what he calls you, or what he tells your mother. That`s his problem. Take away his power, by making him powerless over you. If he says something you don`t like, picture him getting a bucket of moldy milk over his head, and laugh it off. Be out of the house as much as you can, and if the bastard wants to chew loudly or talk about you negatively, put some music in your ears. Some happy music. He`s one ignorant bastard, in a world filled with ignorant bastards. In the big picture, he`s about as important as a tiny little corn of sand in a sand-box, that`s how insignificant he is. And if you can manage to make him that in your mind as well, then he`ll be powerless.

I remember when my father tried to power-trip me when I was twelve. He did that scary eye-thing, like he`d always do before slapping my mother. I stared him down for ten minutes while he was yelling at me, thinking please hit me dad, so I can call the cops on your ass, before he mumbled something and left the room. I remember being so angry at that point, that I didn`t care if he smacked me or not, he was not winning because I knew I hadn`t done what he accused me off. He still bullied my siblings around, but after that, he didn`t bother trying it with me. So get a little angry, but get angry in a productive way. Harming yourself, or telling yourself the same BS that he tells you, is not productive, it`s sabotage. You deserve a heck of a lot better than sabotaging yourself. How long are you going to keep letting him put you down? Use your anger to help you ignore the crap out of him. Let him talk, show him without word how little his words mean to you. Start shutting him out. Block it out. If he tells you something, like, you`re lazy, or your girlfriend is fat, tell yourself the exact opposite, and mean it. "I work hard, and my GF is better than you`d ever get, you crap-tard moron". On the inside. There`s no point in making an argument. Then he gets to play the card that you`re the unruly daughter, and he`s the "poor " stepdad. He doesn`t deserve that either. So don`t talk back at him, just treat him like the no-good, pointless, ignorant loser that he is. Because only losers treat other people that way. Losers put people down, because deep down they are aware of how messed up and pathetic they are. Some manage to find their way to make themselves better people, but most of them just go on, until they die old and bitter. You can`t change him, but you can change how you respond to him, and how he makes you feel. You have that power, even if you`ve not been aware of it.

*hugs* We are so much stronger than we think we are, you are too. And I can assure you that you are not a loser. But don`t treat yourself the same way he does. Give yourself a break, be your own friend, not the one sabotaging important step forwards. It`s your life and you only live once. Don`t waste it on letting your emotional state depend on one ass-wipe. Build a brick wall so that nothing he says penetrates it. And then one day, walk out of there with your chin raised. Because you deserve that. Don`t let him make you feel otherwise!