Unsure if i'm bi, gay or just open minded

Obviously you're not gay!! :eusa_danc haha

You can (and do) feel attraction towards women. That type (and strength) of attraction cannot be imagined or recreated by denial.

So you're either straight and open minded or you're bi. Either way is fine, and your possible bisexuality could remain dormant until the right trigger comes up. Example; you finally meet a guy you could be attracted to or realize that you've fallen in love with one of your male friends.

Being bisexual doesn't mean that you have to be attracted to men and to women the same way!

Me personally, I thought I was straight for a long time. It was simple; I am very attracted to women in an obvious manner and am repulsed by the idea of touching a man in a sexual way. But then I found that some very rare men trigger something in me and I can feel attraction towards them, therefore, I am bi

So, who knows. Only time will tell. At least having an open mind prepares you for whatever outcome there can be!

 

Don't think your gay either... Maybe a little Bi but not full on gay.

 

Hmm, I consider myself bisexual, and some of that sounds a little bit familiar to me, except that you sound closer to the straight side of the spectrum.

I've never done anything gay, but I like gay porn and fantasise about guys. An absolute requirement, though, is that the guy is gay (or bi with a strong attraction to guys). The idea of doing anything with a straight guy has no attraction to me at all.

Unlike you, I do have crushes on guys, but only if I get a feeling that they're gay, and it doesn't last unless they seem attracted to me. They also have to be my type, both physically and in personality. That's why I think I'm more to the gay side of the spectrum than you are.

My usual way of getting over gay crushes is actually to tell myself that the guy is straight (which is statistically likely). It usually works pretty quickly, unless he's really flirty or I feel like he's giving me signals.

So, to me, you definitely don't sound gay. You sound like you could be bi, but straight-leaning. I don't know if trying something with a guy would be that informative, unless you feel specifically attracted to him. I don't think I'd enjoy trying something with a guy (or girl) I didn't feel attraction towards. It could be different for you, though.

 

Hey man, I can relate. I've had a hard time getting hard with a girl, a lot of time if I am feeling insecure or wrapped up in "am I gay, bi, if I am bi how much??". It make getting a hard on almost seem like a life or death situation, that kinda stress makes my little bud cower in fear! Anyways, like you I notice hot women in public without trying all the time. I can also see a man who displays qualities society say are hot, like chizzled abs, all American types but im not into guys like that sexually. My thing is, I find older men attractive. I think I pick out men that would be good dad material based on looks. I have some abandonment issues LOL. Anyways, I was real heavy into dad/son porn for awhile...until I tried it. I figured, "ok, weird experience. Next time I'll be more picky". Well, kept up with gay porn, tried again and same thing. Now gay porn isn't so.great because i don't dig a lot of the activity. When I wanna see some older guy, I watch hetero porn. Still hot, and there is a hot young chick so.its like best of both. I may be gay, may be bi, still don't know either. Good luck mane. Also man, when it comes to porn it can mess with your head. Check out "yourbrainonporn.com"

 

Well, I wouldn't say checking out girls is a sign that you necessarily want to sleep with them and do "things" to them ha. Eye candy is eye candy, and attention/flirtation can be fun regardless of gender.

 

Hmm, I actually used to be somewhat similar to you but in the reverse. I'm gay, I fantasize only about guys, and find myself sexually attracted to guys I see in public. Never girls. When I was about 13-17, at a time when my sexuality shifted from gay leaning bi to completely gay, I did have this weird obsession with lesbians and occasionally watched lesbian porn. The idea they would reject a hot guy in a weird way was a turn on. Girls not liking a hot muscled guy and instead going for the ladies was some weird turn on for me. I wasn't turned on by their bodies, but mostly by their acts like scissoring (porn) or if they were holding hands in public. Straight porn was boring. Me having sex with an actual girl was boring as well. But some weird thing about lesbianism seemed kinda kinky, and it may resemble what you feel towards gay porn and gay guys. You may actually be completely straight, but get off to the idea of two guys of the same sex doing things with each other, but you have no desire (or lack attraction) to be with a real life guy. Again our fantasies don't always match up with our orientation.

 

I like lesbians too.
Hope you work things out.

 

Well it all depends wen u watched gay porn what really turned u on was it "just getting fucked by a man" or fucking another guy if it was the hotness of the top guy then u "bisexual" but if u just wanted to try somthing new and u more attracted to women then u "straight" so u not actually "Gay" u either bisexual or straight

 

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