Hey, I'm kind of sexually confused. I've always thought I was gay, till I came out. I'm sure that if I am bisexual, the attraction is not 50/50. I'm confused with whether I'm not bisexual, or I'm something like 99/1 - homosexual tendency. I've never had a real sexual attraction towards the opposite sex, only same. Is it all about attraction though? - I've heard words like 'biromantic,' and 'heteroromantic'. I guess I'm just asking how I can figure this out. I'll always use the 'gay' label, because of preference; I would rather just know. Not understanding others is annoying, let alone yourself. - Jake
Those more complicated labels are mainly useful for self-exploration. They are not social roles or identities that emerged organically in the culture. If you are a guy, and only really interested in dating guys, it is probably best to identify as gay.
Bisexual means sexual attraction to BOTH genders, to whatever degree. If nothing about a girl turns you on, then it's safe to say you are gay. If you have a low sex drive and so does your hypothetical girlfriend, then that relationship may work on a strong emotional attraction. Usually that's not the case and sexual attraction becomes a major issue.
I've kind-of "officially" come out (at least to a few friends) & I can tell you that I started having these thoughts as well (things like "What if I'm actually Bi..?, "I've come out as Gay, but what if I'm actually Bi...is it too late?"). I think these thoughts are common, actually. If you're only (sexually) attracted to guys, then you're gay. I often wonder what a relationship with a girl would be like (and I occasionally have times where I wish I could), but I know deep down inside that I'm still gay & always will be.
If you're only really sexually attracted to guys, then I would say that you're gay, but with maybe a 5 on the Kinsey scale if you have a slight attraction to women.
