Ok,so i realised that i am bisexual,but the problems are: -i am not very turned on males and sometimes females body(lesbian?because one day i don't like females body,but another..) -i love my female friend like friend,i don't like thought of sex with her,i can't imagine sex with her,when she kissed me i felt grossed -i really like boys,being with my bf,touches,i can imagine future with him -i can't imagine sex with girl anymore,when i watched lesbian porn i could but now..that doesn't attract me anymore I know and i am fine with being bi,but i think i should pick a side:lesbian or str8.I am probablly Kinsey 2 or 4 i don't know.I am sorry for my writting of English,there are mistakes. love you,you are great people
Trust me, I understand where you are coming from, BUT thinking like that doesnt seem like it will be very helpful. Wouldnt it just be easier if everyone was just gay or straight? But it doesnt work like that, and I guess thats why the idea of bisexuality exists, as well as the kinsey scale. This is probably more helpful even than the kinsey scale: Take the Test « Flexuality But in all honesty i feel that you are attracted to who you are attracted to, thats it. You could be attracted and date a girl next week but who knows, maybe you spend your future with a guy
It may help to stop seeing sexuality as 'gay or straight'. Because you are forcing yourself to decide, this is causing problems for you. If I were you, I'd just go with the flow. This issue is holding you back from doing what you truly want to. If you decide you are gay, you will restrict yourself to liking only girls. If you decide you're straight, you will restrict yourself to liking only guys. Either way, if you end up meeting someone perfect for you, your sexuality restriction could hold you back from having an opportunity with them. If lesbian porn doesn't turn you on, don't watch it. That doesn't mean you can't eventually love a woman.
I was confused in the same way you are for a very long time. Still am to a degree. The above posts pretty much sum things up, but I'd like to add, as strange as it might sound, don't simply sexualize you sexuality. It's more than just the physical. What helped me is to remove the sexual part of it and to make it more about how I feel about it by simply telling myself, I'm straight and see how that made me feel. That didn't ring true, so I told myself, I'm gay, and that rang a little more true, but not quite. When I said bisexuality it just felt right. So basically, just see how those things feel, but honestly, ya like who ya like in the end, and things can change. And remember, as a gay friend once told me, sexuality is only a small part of what makes you who you are. You're a lot of things, so don't put too much pressure on yourself, cultural expectation do enough of that. Just be open with your self and it will come.
Guys, you've no idea how much that actually has helped me today and I wanna thank you. I keep flip flopping from one side to the other because I don't feel right in either camp but when I settle on Bi it does feel right, but because everyone else I know is one or the other and being Bi is seen as "experimentation" that it's hard for me even to believe it's real, even though I know it is what I am in my heart.
