So--I'm 27 and have been confused about this stuff for a long time now. I've identified as straight but always had questions. When I was a teenager I'd be turned on--getting hard or something--just readin passages in a book, whether gay or straight acts were being depicted. And I like girls. I like being around them. I like the way they smell. I like seeing them naked. I like breasts. I like vaginas. I like sex. I sometimes get hard just standing near a hot girl. But I've always had homoerotic feelings too. There's a friend of mine, Matthew, who I used to smoke up with, every time we did that I had an overwhelming urge to make out with him (and an exgirlfriend told me he looked at me like he wanted to make out with me.) I have vivid dreams about gay sex. I like gay porn--but primarily reading gay erotica, not looking at the photos, that doesn't do it for me. I also like straight porn. Frankly, I look at too much porn... I feel "funny" turned on I guess around cute guys, though I never get hard the way I do around women sometimes. Help! I feel completely divided in my head. What's going on? Anyone else experience anything like this? Any advice? (I've never hooked up with a guy, and hooked up with a lot of girls.)
Hi Try thinking about this: If all advantages/disadvantages were exactly the same regardless of whether you were in a gay or straight relationship, which one would you choose? Good luck! -Nick
Well, from your post, you certainly don't sound gay. Most gay guys aren't turned on by girls. There's a chance that you could be bi. I don't know really know enough about bisexuality to draw any certain conclusions. I'll let to other members who know more about it try to help you with that. :icon_wink
You also don't have to be anything. Labels aren't for everyone and you could just be someone who's "label free" and just take each relationship or love interest as they come, without really worrying about how you would define yourself. For me, I know that I'm gay, and that's the label that suits my sexuality and many others, and I can recognize the want to find your sexual identity...but just keep your possibilities open and don't stress too much over it, it'll all work itself out.
Hmmm... Id have to say that theres got to be more than just a curious straight guy thing going on here... Right off the bat I think it sounds kinda like you might be bi?? I guess, like always, just ride it out, experiment with guys, see what you like. You may be more attracted than you think to guys and just haven't tried it yet, or maybe you're trying to ignore your feelings toward guys a little? just my thoughts.
It's really tough to say what you are and aren't when only you can answer that, but as someone said it might be nothing, just the curiosity in you. if you're single I'd say find someone you like/interested in and try it out, whether it's a kiss or more, then you'll probably have your answer for sure. From reading what you wrote (or the rest) I'd say you were at least a little bi. You can be bi and still prefer woman a little more, same as you can be bi and prefer men more, only you know where you'd put yourself on the scale so to say lol! Give it a try, if you find the right person you might love it, or it might just be curiosity which doesn't do anything for you? Good luck!
