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im feeling something , i cant describe.

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by MerBear, Feb 16, 2013.

  1. MerBear

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    okay ...so i'll try my best to describe it.

    ever since i gave my ex scarlett , my last email (we decided to go our separate ways)

    i haven't cried at all but before we decided to go our separate ways , she didn't respond to one of my emails i sent her and i had she left and i spent a month , crying my eyes out every night and felt horrible.



    but anyways , just after i gave her my last email. i haven't one bit....i haven't had the urge to cry but recently , i've been feeling torn apart inside....like

    physically , i feel torn inside....but i dont have the urge to cry. at all.

    and usually i would have the urge to email her but i dont want to....i dont have the urge...

    i miss her like crazy and feel physically torn but at the same time , i dont have the urge to cry or email her?

    what would you say i'm feeling?
     
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    I think you're slowly starting to get over her but I would suggest blocking her emails and stuff so you won't be tempted to contact her anymore. That's the best way to get over someone completely.
     
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    You are feeling emotionally numb. This usually happens when you've decided to go your separate ways with someone you love. You've spent a great amount of time crying over her and wondering why she left. Now that you know why, you're probably trying to accept the fact that she is gone. Some would also say you're emotionally drained.
     
  4. MerBear

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    yeah....its weird

    ---------- Post added 16th Feb 2013 at 07:44 PM ----------

    well i deleted every one of her emails.
    her email address , i haven't deleted though...

    but overall i have no desire to email her
     
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    I would just delete her email address and block her emails. Like Anthemic said, you're numb but the best way to get passed that is to make sure she never comes back so when you're finally feeling better she won't be able to suck you back in and hurt you again. That was my mistake the first few times with my ex but I blocked every way she could contact me and I got over her and moved on.
     
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    but thats what scarlett did to me....she completely blocked me in every way and tried to ignore me

    she wont come back....im pretty positive about this....
    if she wanted me to move on , why would she come back?
     
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    Because some girls like to play mind games. My ex LOVED it. She loved to see that someone still had feelings for her and that she could get a reaction out of me.
     
  8. MerBear

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    if she comes back....then i'll do it but until that happens....i wont....

    she may be...but thats why i finally let go...
     
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    This is certainly the truth and in this case it looks like it was being done. Mind games are the worst you get healed and a new game starts. Just when you have forgotten she pops back up. Nail head you got it sweetheart.
     
  10. MerBear

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    sigh....

    nobody believes me when i say she's not coming back. why?
     
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    I dont think its necessarily that they dont believe what you are saying, its just they have probably had experiences where the person did come back.

    My question to you however is, you say that if she comes back you will delete her email addresses and block them, but if she doesnt then you will just leave them there. I dont understand this, if you dont want to email her then why do you want to keep her email addresses? Also you say that if she does contact you then you will block her and delete them so why not just do it now.

    I know its a difficult time but it sounds like you are starting to move on and will see some good times soon so surely you dont want to ruin that?
     
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    If you are gonna burn the bridge, make sure it is completely toast, the decision is final, you never want to go back nor even get ideas of turning back. dump the emotional stuff too. You are done with it, move on.It sounds cold and callused, but this is for you. It may also help to forgive yourself, chalk it up as a great lesson in life. And now watch as a new chapter in your life opens up right before your eyes.
     
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    She has already come back once and hurt you again. Just make sure she can't do that again.
     
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    because even if i deleted her email address , i know it by heart.
    there is no reason to block her if she hasn't contacted me....


    i know scarlett....i know it seems ignorant of me to say but i promise you , she will NOT come back.

    why would she come back if she wanted me to leave first place?
    she gave me that email after i told her i was done....

    because i never got an answer and i got pissed off at her and she decided i deserved an answer.....she didnt come back to inflict pain , she did what she i thought i deserved an answer.

    she never liked me being angry at her...
    she hated when i was mad at her and would do anything to make it up.

    she was a really insecure person and when we skyped , i could see it on her face.

    ---------- Post added 17th Feb 2013 at 07:15 AM ----------

    well really , she came back to give me an answer and that answer just hurt me but now i really understand why she wanted me to let go.

    its reasonable and i let go because she deserved it as well

    ---------- Post added 17th Feb 2013 at 07:17 AM ----------

    understand that , i am moving on...i dont have the urge to email her anymore.
    i have fully acknowledged she's gone and she's not coming back...

    yes i may still think of her and feel torn but i am allowing myself to move for once....
    i am moving on.....just at slower pace but at least its a pace
     
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    Its up to you whether or not you delete the addresses I think everyone here is probably airing on the side of caution because they dont want to see you get hurt.
     
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    i know