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Sexual Orientation..? Help!

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Daniel Matos, Feb 18, 2013.

  1. Daniel Matos

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    Hi everybody!
    1st of all, I (think) I'm a straight, 22yo guy. I've been straight all my life, always crazy about girls, never had a hard time getting hard around them. I've had multiple one night stands, but only one serious relationship. And I never thought about men in a sexual kind of way, nor I felt the least bit attracted.
    A couple of weeks ago, I was out partying with a mate and we were already a bit drunk. As I was "crying" over my last relationship, he said I was being "a pussy" and, like stupid 20yo guys do, we started calling gay to each other and laughing around.
    Now, I have absolutely nothing against gay people and I have 2 close friends (1 guy, 1 girl) who are themselves gay.
    The following days, after the hangover went away, I thought about what he said and started freaking out!
    What if he was right? My gf went away because she thought I could be gay?? Am I a gay in denial?? I'm even finding some men to be pretty... and I never noticed it before!
    What do you think? Is it possible I'm turning or discovering that I'm gay?
    Thanks for the attention (and sorry for the long post)
     
  2. falsereading

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    I don't see much evidence that you are gay (what is giving you the idea?), I can appreciate a good looking woman just as I am sure (and I know how painful it is for some to admit it) straight guys can appreciate a good looking man so don't put too much thought into that one.

    Follow your heart, if you want the women go after the women.
     
  3. Lexington

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    Welcome to EC!

    It looks like the only clue that you might be gay is that your straight relationship ended, and you were "crying" about it. It usually hurts when a relationship ends. Nothing "gay" about that. The fact that you don't have any issue having sex with women suggests that you're at most bisexual, but there's really no evidence here that you're anything but straight. I mean, I find some of my female friends downright stunning, but I don't want to go to bed with them. :slight_smile:

    If you're still wondering, you might try something out. Skip porn for now. Just masturbate lying in bed fantasizing. Let your mind wander wherever it wants to. Maybe you CAN get off thinking about guys, but if your brain seems to want to head towards the female side, I'd stick with "straight". :slight_smile:

    Lex
     
  4. Daniel Matos

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    Thank you for your reply Falsereading! :slight_smile:
    The main thing giving me that idea is me suddenly noticing that some men look good.

    ---------- Post added 18th Feb 2013 at 07:43 PM ----------

    Thank you so much Lexington, your reply is quite helpful! I may follow that advice!
     
  5. falsereading

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    You are probably just super concious about it now, reasses it when you start thinking about sleeping with them (which may or may not happen). If you are gay it is not the end of the world and these things take time (it has only taken me about ten years to figure it out) so just carry on doing what makes you happy until at some point you say no I am not/yes I am.