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Coming Out Through Text(?)

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by BubbleGumNinja, Feb 18, 2013.

  1. I'm considering coming out through a text message... what is your input on this? Would this be a good idea, or should I try another method? Thanks in advance.
     
  2. MerBear

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    i think its a good method.
    i came out over writing a note
     
  3. koilfong

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    i basically did that. and it worked, so go for it.
     
  4. Minx

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    *ponders*

    It depends, sometimes texts spread around to people other than the receiver. :/

    So, be careful. :3
     
  5. Pain

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    To whom do you plan on coming out? What's their relation to you? I think it's fine, honestly, because it's easier than anything face-to-face. It takes away the emotion that makes it difficult.

    And btw, I appreciate your avatar and signature.
     
  6. remainnameless

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    It all depends on the situation, but face-to-face would be best because they can see how important it is to you, and can take you seriously.
     
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    I did it and it worked out just fine. If you trust the person enough to not spread it around you should be good. :slight_smile:
     
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    I don't think it's a good idea. Texts are nowhere as personal as face-to-face, and the conversation that occurs after coming out can't be properly handled through texts. Then again, I think this way because I'm part of the last generation who grew up without cell phones and texts.
     
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    i wouldn't recommend this, while i have done it, i have only done it once and i wish i could take it back and do it the right way, face to face
     
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    I told my brother and sister through text. I couldn't bring myself to say it... It worked, I would recommend it if you can't say it.
     
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    The first time I came out was via text. It worked fine. Just make sure you trust the person enough that they wont spread it.
     
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    I am actually thinking about doing it by text... while next to the person. Simply because it would be hard to get out in words; I would feel weird just saying "I'm gay." That way immediately after I can have a face-to-face conversation about it, which I would like to happen.
     
  13. musicgeek13

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    Lost of people come out over text. The one bad thing is that you can't see their reaction so you may be left wondering for quite a while about how they take it. I confirmed that I was gay over text and he didn't text me back and, while I knew he was okay with it (he's gay), it was still nerve wracking just waiting for a response.