I can say one thing for sure: I'm not straight. But it gets complicated when trying to divide that into a subgroup. I'll use a scale of 1 to 10 here for stuff. In terms of sexual attraction to women, I'm a 7. I can get erections fairly easily with women. With sexual attraction to men, I'm about a 4. I'm less sexually attracted to men, and it takes more to get an erection. A significant amount more. I'm bisexual, then, with a leaning towards women? No! It gets more complicated! In terms of romantic interest in women, I'm a 2. I don't know why, I just can't see myself going out with a woman. Regarding romantic interest in men, I'm about a 7 or 8. So that complicates things further. And then more complications! Yay! I can't imagine having sex with a woman. I don't know why, it just seems kind of repulsive to me (not to be sexist or anything). I don't know why, but if a woman asked me to have sex, I'd say no, unless we're talking about a fairly masculine one. As for men, I can imagine having sex with men. But not anal. That's where poop comes from! But I can imagine oral, I guess. One more thing: I've never seen porn and don't want to, so don't ask me to compare. I've never masturbated or orgasmed (I'm too freaked out to try, I don't know why), so I can't actually say which sex I'm more attracted to or which gets me to orgasm, so those are just approximations. So to summarize: I'm more sexually attracted to women than men, but I can't actually corroborate those feelings because I'm too scared to look at porn. I'm more romantically attracted to men. And I consider the idea of sex with a woman kinda sorta repulsive. Please don't say, "Oh, you're a homoromantic heterosexual." What I want to know is: one, in the future, will I more likely marry a boy or a girl. And two: should I come out to my friends as gay, or should I be straight. Because most people don't know anything but gay or straight. Thanks!
Hey man, sorry to hear you're confused. Believe me, I've been there. Still kinda there. Except in my case, I didn't have any sexual attraction to speak of at your age . . . in fact I didn't masturbate until I was 20. True story, lol. Who do you tend to check out more in public? Who do you tend to have crushes on? I don't know if I'm knowledgeable enough to answer all of your questions, but here are my thoughts . . . I think a lot of people probably start out with icky feelings about sex. I certainly did. After all, society tells us nudity is obscene and sex is taboo. Sex involves naughty parts rubbing together, eeeew! BUT, in the moment, especially if it's someone you really care about, I think a lot of those feelings aren't an issue. Just like with many things, it's a bit awkward the first time, but the more you do it you get used to it. It seems to me that if you are more "turned on" by women, you would likely be fine having sex with one. What exactly do you mean by "romantic feelings"? Whether you could picture yourself in a relationship with someone of that sex? That is another thing that is kind of hard to picture if you haven't experienced it. I entered my very first romantic relationship about nine months ago (with a guy). Before that I knew I had attractions to guys but I had a hard time visualizing myself in a relationship with one. It's hard to plan out everything about a relationship beforehand. So, as far as whether you should come out as straight or gay . . . what's the rush? Why not take some time and explore your feelings a bit more before making a decision on what to label yourself? I'm not a huge fan of labels myself. Even while I was with my boyfriend I would usually not come out to people by saying, "I'm gay." Instead I would say, "I'm dating a guy." It just seemed more honest to me, since I don't really feel like that one word really captures the way I feel. As for what the other people think, well, I let them come to their own conclusion.
Seriously you sound like you may be asexual... I am not placing a label on you but... listening to what you have said... its how I have acted alot... but than I found out something new about myself... and now I feel strange... lol now to go start my own sexuality....
