Am I Gay or Bi???

You could be homoromantic bisexual.

 

I'm sorry, had to do it :eusa_danc

I would say go with the flow, let your feelings tell you if you want to be in a relationship with a girl or with a guy. I believe it doesn't matter if you are 52,48% gay and 47,52% straight, what's important is that you follow your feelings no matter where they take you.

I hope this helps! :icon_bigg

 

Gay seal is right... Feel the man love!

 

Actually since he's attracted to the same sex sexually and both sexes romantically, wouldnt he be a bi romantic homosexual rather than a homoromantic bisexual?

 

Omg David, your bottom little footer is too die for, it's so cute with all the emotions!!! (!)(*hug*) Sorry for not posting any advice Op!

 

Yes, that is correct. Mea culpa.

 

People have different interpretations of it. For me personally, sexual orientation is simply sexual attraction. It is literally called "sexual" orientation. Romance/emotions/affection often are synonymous with sexual orientation but not always. If you base it on sexual attraction alone, then your percentages would look more like 100% gay, 0% straight.

I'm guessing for sexual hookups, you would only want guys. Of course, you can try and "fake" it with a girl which can work. But I'm betting you when you're aroused and horny, you only want guys :icon_wink. But relationships aren't just purely sexual. It is a big part of it for a lot of people, but for some emotional attraction is top priority with sexual being less. If sexual isn't that important for you at all, then maybe an asexual girl or girl with a lower sex drive would work. But if you're constantly lusting over guys, it could be a problem.

With years of heteronormativity and indoctrination placing hetero relationships on a pedestal, it is easy for gay guys to lack emotions towards other guys. It takes time. You will develop those feelings over time once you are more comfortable. Hope this helps.

 

Labels, labels and more labels. Human sexuality is complicated and is also fluid. Your attraction towards men/women can swing back and forth overtime. Last year during this time I was in a sexually active relationship with a girl. Now I barely feel any attraction towards the female gender. I'd say you shouldn't worry too much. Nobody is 100% straight nor 100% homo! You are what you are. Experiment, explore your sexuality,try everything until you settle down to what you prefer. I am a "genderqueer pansexual" but would rather just tell people I like rainbows and cute boys.

 

I've posted this before, but whatever lol.. I for one, can't STAND how the bisexual orientation is decided. I feel like you're either committed to both sexes equally or you're just bi-curious. Gives them a bad wrap in my opinion when you start saying you just want to have sex with one gender and want to commit to the other. So far from the post that you've written, I would say that you still have a long while to go in terms of self discovery. Even as a gay male, the image has popped into my head that I could date a woman also, but then I have the epiphany that, "hey! I'm not attracted to her in a sexual way" Not saying that's all to a relationship but I'm saying..I'm disgusted when I think about the inner regions of a woman. ha, no interest whatsoever, but the qualities that they portray are the very ones we want to find in men. Loving, caring, sensitive, etc. If you WANT to believe that you could date women, then by all means. I think when it comes to what you're saying about THINKING about dating women, well I would just need more information as to whether or not you've done anything of the sort with a girl and what exactly you mean when you say "date" I've found that my straight friends typically date a girl because they aren't very easy to get in bed. Not the quality women anyway. So some form of commitment was mandatory and at some point, they fall for the girl and it becomes a couple. Now, in your case I would have to know what you mean when you say "date" a girl. I think you're gay. I don't believe in homoerotic or whatever they call it, you're either equally invested into both sexes or you're gay or bi curious in my book.

 

I'm getting overwhelmed by all these labels.. You sound gay to me!!

 

Hi there, sexual orientation is defined purely on sexual attraction, so yes that would mean you are gay, but if you find yourself aroused by a woman pheraps after you bond emotionally with them, then of course there is some room for heterosexual attraction too, but in all honestly "aroused" as in sexually excited is the key word. Sexuality is on a spectrum and we are curious creatures wether gay, bi or straight but pull back on that curiosity due to socialisation. As far as these verbose labels go, I would not put too much emphasis on them, they are simply semantic coping strategies rather than a representation of actuall sexuality. I say don't worry about the loaded terms, follow your attractions and emotions.

 

That is a highly ignorant statement to make with no empirical evidence to support it. Of course lots of people are 100% gay or 100% straight! I am 100% gay. Sexuality for me is black & white, which may be the case for the OP, but I'm not him. If the OP hasn't felt any sexual attraction towards women in the past nor the present, then it's safe the say he has a low chance of experiencing it in the future. He is most likely Gay. Of course you don't have to label yourself anything, but to deny humans can't be rigid in their ways it totally inaccurate.