Scared.

Have you thought about writing a letter?

I definitely have had trouble coming out to people who I know will be accepting. Sometimes you just can't get the words "I'm gay" out of your mouth. Actually, I don't think I've ever come out by saying the words "I'm gay" to anyone I really cared about. My parents reached the conclusion due to some hints, and I wrote it down on a piece of paper and gave it to my sister. Other times, I've done it over Facebook. One of my best friends asked me after someone prompted him to, so I didn't have to take any initiative and say "I'm gay" either.

Don't get me wrong, I have said "I'm gay" before, just not to anyone of importance to me.

I think it would be a good idea to write a letter and hand it to your Mom, or leave it somewhere where she could find it. You don't even need to be there when she is reading it.

Since you know without doubt that she is going to be accepting, and may even be happy about the news, you have nothing to fear by doing this method.

It doesn't even have to be a long letter! A few lines will do, but do tell her that you love her.

And in the spirit of "TL;DR" (which is not necessary here!): Write her a letter!

 

First of all. Welcome to EC, I hope you find all the help you're looking for, if not, just PM me. Secondly, coming out is never easy, no matter what the situation is, a cousin of mine is gay, and I still struggled to come out. There are several ways you can go about coming out. A good way might be either to write a letter, or send a text/email letting her know you need to speak to her about something important

 

If you're sure she will accept you, tell her. It doesn't have to be face-to-face, verbal communication.

As TwoMethod suggested, writing a letter. Alternatively, you can use social networking, email, texting, etc. Whatever makes it easiest for you is what you should do.

Whatever you choose to do, good luck.

 

I can understand what you mean, but a letter can be just the opposite depending on how you write it. Sure, if you write a very short letter and just come out to her, then it is definitely less personal than coming out in person.

But what makes a letter personal is how you write it. Why don't you also include a message to her about how thankful you are to have her, and thank her for all the great things she's done for you. Thank her for loving you as much as she does, and tell her that you don't know what you would do without her.

It goes without saying that your letter should be handwritten. This, in combination with a personal message that comes from the heart, means that it will be anything but impersonal.

 

Good job on writing the letter!! Coming out can be really difficult! I hope it goes well for you

 

I understand what it is to have parents you know will be accepting but still have difficulty telling your parents. What I would do is focus more on telling yourself that you like guys and you want your mom to know. I went though this period of thinking "well, I know one of mom's brothers is gay, and she love him, but she'd thing differently about me." It turned out not to be that way.

What scares you about telling her? I can understand if it's just the uncertainty factor. That's what was hard about telling both of my parents. They both ended up taking it really well in the end. I'm sure your mom will too, from the sound of it.

 

That's great that you've written it!

What I would do is: leave it on the kitchen table before you head to school or something. Just throw it there without thinking about it. You'll be too preoccupied with school to worry about it until you get home, by which stage, your mother will have got over any initial shock and be long on her way to being happy about it (based on what you've told us!).