How do I tell my best guy friend who is trying to ask me out that I'm a lesbian?

He goes to church. I am also really spiritual so I guess people assume I am straight. I have never talked to him about relationships so I don't know why he wants to ask me out. I haven't really given him any indication that I am in to him. On Valentines day he asked me if I wanted to hang out. I told him it would be "awkward" to hang out on valentines day. He admitted that he wanted to bring me chocolates. I told him I was "going through a hard time" I think he might think because I was going through a hard time I wanted to wait to be in a relationship because he backed off for a while then started talking to me again.

Don't get me wrong in a parallel universe this dude would be my future husband. We game together and his favorite game is Mass Effect. If a girl told me her favorite game was Mass Effect I would propose to her on the spot.

We agreed to hang out Friday. I think he wants to ask me out that day and I am super nervous. I consider him a good friend and I don't want to break his heart. (the reason I put it off so long). What can I say so that he isn't hurt. Also what if he doesn't believe me? What if he uses the bible card on me and tries to convince me I made a choice or something? How should I tell him? What do I say? Should I try to make it lighthearted? What if I show up to his house and he has flowers or something that would be awful! What if I chicken out and don't tell him!?? PLEASE HELP ME! :bang:

 

OMG I AM SO JEALOUS!
I think I might reject him Samantha Traynor style.
I bet if I said "you remember when I said I liked the sound of EDI's voice?" he would know what I was talking about.

 

You're right. It is just really hard because I have lost a lot of friends and I don't want to loose another. :/

YEY another Mass Effect fan! Let's be friends!!


... So I have decided I am going to tell him Friday. Where do you think we should meet up so it is not awkward? I feel like if I am in control of where we meet up it won't be as awkward and something unpredictable is less likely to happen. I need to have a plan. This guy is very persistent (don't know if I mentioned that) so I need to stand my ground and get my message through before he tries to dissuade me. I feel like it would be best to meet at one of our apartments because then we can have a real discussion or maybe I could find a public place that doesn't seem dateish? If I go to his apartment though i feel like he will have more control. He probably has a plan for where the conversation is going as well. My apartment isn't the best place to talk because my roommates are usually in the living area and even if they weren't the walls are super thin. (they don't know I'm gay). I want to tell him as soon as the conversation starts. So what do we do when there is an awkward silence afterwards? Play video games silently and awkwardly? lol Is meeting up for coffee too weird? I've never come out in a public place before. I usually pull my friends aside.

 

I just told him and he was totally cool! My adrenaline is going crazy right now. How can I calm down?
He even said that he suspected that I was bisexual. lol. But I cleared up a lot of things for him.
I was shaking when i told him and I still feel like a crazy person. I need to breathe... omg

 

update: He messaged me after we hung out and apparently he freaked out afterwards. He sent me this really heartbreaking message about how he cried and doesn't know if he can handle talking to me right now because he is so upset. I went over to a friends house and talked about it and drank and I still have this horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach.