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24/03/2013- Just come out

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by fallenone, Mar 24, 2013.

  1. fallenone

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    Today 24/03/2013 I have just come out to my parents, I am 33 and always had girlfriends but never really wanted to accept that I might or even could be gay, I was looking at a programme that a famous rugby player did and decided that I couldn't lie to myself or my family anymore, I decided to write out a letter which was done over and over again!!! just explaining everything, I then took my mum upstairs and was uncontrollably crying, I handed the note to her and she started to read, When it got to the part I said ''I'm sorry if I let you down but I cant lie to you anymore, Im Gay'' my mum looked at me and said you're Grey?? what does that mean!! I wanted to open the floor and fall through it haha!!. I said read on to which she looked at me and said very calmly how do you know, I said I've know forever. My mum hugged me for ages and said don't worry everything will be ok and this doesn't change a thing. I felt like I had won the lottery, Then I remembered my dad was down the stairs, My dad is an old fashioned man and I was a bit more worried about what he thought, I asked my mum to go down with the letter. about 10 mins later my mum returned and said he is in a bit of shock but he's ok. I went down and he didn't say anything, I thought he would hit the roof and tell me to get out but he didn't.

    I feel a sense of relief but also scared because them thought that I felt where wrong have just come to reality, I am me and I shouldn't fell shame or embarrassed of who I am, I know this is going to be a hard road but I will get through this.

    I have 2 brothers who I am not telling yet, Will let you know how that goes :confused:
     
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    Congratulations, I know how hard that must of been, I am yet to come out to my family, well done you are so brave, good luck with your brothers :thumbsup: (*hug*)
     
  3. Coming out will really make your life a lot more whole. Being in the closet is terribly oppressing. But, it will be a little while probably before you see the grand changes from the great thing that you have started. Good Work!
     
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    Yay! I love these types of stories! They make me smile. :slight_smile: Hope your dad loses his shock. Also, good luck with your brothers! :grin:
     
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    Thanks very much. I feel a bit strange In a way like a bit of a sick feeling but like a weight has been lifted off my shoulder's, I always thought I would be that person that would go to his grave rather than tell the truth, I know from first hand how hard it is and for people who are in the closet as Ive just come out of it today, and I know that it's not for everyone to come out but hey If I can do it so can you!, I had a moment when I was watching a programme about coming out with Gareth Thomas and thought do I really want to feel like this anymore. anyways thanks for the replys, Didn't think anyone would read it never mind reply, THANKS!!!
     
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    grate news fellenone am glad they took it well. am sorry i had to laugh at the grey bit:slight_smile: but well done mate
     
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    These stories should always be reported. First, because that euphoria you now feel deserves to be shared and you deserve to celebrate your happiness :slight_smile: Second, because it shows everybody else that their own pre-coming-out fears and doubts are not unique, they are not alone and there is hope. Also, different stories and different results give people a feeling of what they might expect when coming out.

    In other words, this is what a community is for (&&&) And because of that, of course we will read and comment and be so happy for you :slight_smile: Congrats! And good luck with brothers :thumbsup:
     
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    Thanks leer. I wanted to laugh my head off too but was shaking. I just thought yeah that's me :slight_smile: never straight forward.
     
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    Congrats!!! And welcome to EC by the way! :slight_smile:
     
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    Thanks Dalmatian :slight_smile:

    ---------- Post added 24th Mar 2013 at 01:39 PM ----------

    Thanks Everyone. I'm so glad I found this place. Its like I've never been able to say what I properly feel and now I can :slight_smile:
     
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    Hi fallenone :welcome: to EC :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:ride:
     
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    Thanks Dublin boy. Thanks mate.