So over the past few months I have been wrestling with the idea that I might be gay. I finally came to terms with it (I think) about a month ago and have been thinking about who to come out to. So I chose someone who I have known since I was about 3 and is a very good and close friend, I was going to tell her today. But yesterday for some reason instead of watching some gay porn I watched some straight stuff and while I did get aroused it wasn't anywhere near as much as gay stuff. Now I don't know if it was the guy that I liked or what but now I don't think that I can come out to my friend as I am questioning myself again... am I gay am I bi? I've sort of gone back to thinking "Am I gay?" but now being straight isn't on the tables (I don't think so anyways). I don't even know anymore this is so frustrating!!! maybe this is just a way for me to postpone the coming out... I don't know. Any help would be much appreciated!
Hey man, your story sounds a lot like mine. Try to answer the follow questions honestly.... Would you rather be with a man or women (sexually)? Would you rather marry a man or women? On a normal day are you eyeing up men or women? Also, maybe try to lay off the porn and try using your imagination. See what comes to mind then. If you're really good friends with this person, maybe you could come out as confused and unsure, if you feel you really need to come out. The answer is in there, you just gotta keep trying to figure it out. You know you like guys anyway, regardless of being gay/bi. Is it a big difference coming out as gay versus "I like guys,not sure about girls"? Good luck to you! Again, you're not alone.
Thank you for your advice I am going to talk about things with my friend and see if she can help me with this... I don't know how I'm going to do it though. In my mind I was planing on being all cool with it but now that it is arranged I am literally sh*ting bricks... well I guess that's how it works I suppose...
