So I came out to a good friend of mine today (best thing I have ever done!) and they were very understanding and supportive and that has motivated me to tell others! I have already arranged to tell three more very close friends and want to start telling my other less close friends. BUT now here is the thing... I am worried that I am moving things along too fast I only really found out I was gay about a year ago and only came to terms with it 3 months ago (rough guesses) and I keep thinking 'what if I'm wrong and I'm not gay' and what if this and what if that. and I was thinking all this before I decided to start coming out am I just worried or anxious about telling more people and that is turning into denial? Any feedback would be much appreciated!
Congrats, man! A year is enough time to be sure. Everyone has the same thoughts about "what if this is a phase" and so on, but you have to ignore it. Only you can know who you are.
I agree with UndercoverGypsy, a year is sufficient time to be sure. What you are experiencing is: "OK, this is real now, there is no turning back" and it is quite a shock to the system, but on the whole, a healthy one. I am still coming out to others and I feel better about it each time, it feels right and it is right!
Good for you on coming out to your first person, I'm glad to hear they were supportive! It's a great feeling to get it off your chest for the first time (at least I thought it was)! I also had the exact same feelings after I came out for the first time, so I'd say this anxiety about it completely normal. If after a year you continued to have the same feelings, I don't think you are moving too fast. I also think you can be relatively sure this is not just a phase etc. Just continue with whatever you feel comfortable with!
