I just came out to my mom and things didn't go as I wanted them to, she thinks its just a phase something I'm thinking I am bc of tv. I don't know what to do we were sitting in the car and she asked me what was wrong the first question was if I was pregnant of course I said no then out came the big question " are you gay" I paused (I've been wanting to come out for a while but I didn't think I was ready after a little more thought) then she took a big sigh and asked me why I thought that all I Could do was say "my feelings" I was in shock that this was actually happening, I don't know what to do, do I pull myself together and go up to her and talk or do I just ignore what just happened and wait? Her leading argument for why I'm not gay is because I don't have any friends(wrong!!) and so I don't know what a friendship is, how do I even respond to that? This is not how I wanted this conversation to go I wanted to be confident and proud and I am but why did I just sit there and let her tell me I couldn't be sure I was gay!! Please help I'm begging all of you I can't even believe this happened
Re: Just came out to my mother didn't go we'll It doesn't sound like she's being aggressive about it. Tell her you've been looking at porn and think girls are cuter than boys or something. You don't need friends to have porn
Re: Just came out to my mother didn't go we'll At 15, I'd stay miles away from telling my parents I've been looking at porn, but hey that's just me I'm sorry that it didn't go as you had planned. What I'd do right now is to pull myself together and go talk to her. Explain that you aren't this way because of TV, and that you've known for quite some time. I've never had sex with a guy (or been in a serious relationship), but I still know that I'm gay - the thought of having sex with a girl just turns me off, just like the thought of having sex with a guy turns you off. It's not something that you need experience with to know. You and I both know that this isn't a phase you're going through - by the time you've decided to tell other people, especially your parents, you've thought long and hard about this. This brochure might help her understand, but I think she probably needs some time to accept it.
Re: Just came out to my mother didn't go we'll She's still trying to accept it but we've talked more and things are a lot better thanks I just wasn't expecting all this to happen today
Re: Just came out to my mother didn't go we'll My mom did that to me but with bisexual instead of gay. They knew. They don't want to accept it. Which means your mom will most likley come around and accept it eventually.
Re: Just came out to my mother didn't go we'll Maybe if you explain to her how you really feel and how long you've known she'll start to understand more. My mom thought I was going through a phase too but over time she accepted it. It can be hard for parents to accept that their child is gay but if you show them you are serious they can either accept it or stay in denial. I think the main thing with that is just showing her you are mature and that this was your mature decision (even though you don't actually choose to be gay). It just feels to me like you didn't get to properly explain yourself. I hope I helped and good luck!
Re: Just came out to my mother didn't go we'll Thank you all she's Kind of playing it off like nothing ever happened which right now I think is a good thing I did try and talk to her and she said she loves me no matter what and she just wants me to be happy
