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Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by AloneWolf, Apr 2, 2013.

  1. AloneWolf

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    OK so hi....

    I am aged 15 and i have figured out i am gay. I need help coming out because well let me explain. I live with grandparents who are strongly anti-gay. My mother is Strongly supportive of all gays and she said "One out of 4 children are gay 'I am that one out of my four siblings' and i would support and love you if you were" I dont think my school is open to gays but main thing is, Should i come out. I have tried like I wrote "I am Gay" on my hand but i wear long selves and whenever someone asks about what i wrote on my hand i just stammer off and dont respond and i hide it. I have never had luck with girls but there is this one guy... Another story for another day. Any help for me? i REALLY want to be happy about who i am but if i come out, i might lose my living space and i would have to move with mom who cannot support me right now... Please help
     
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    That one out of four thing made me giggle. I am one out of four, too. Maybe you back off because you don’t feel ready. Are you coming out because you want to or think you should?
     
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    Knowing who you are is wonderful! Live with that truth inside of you and be proud of who you are.

    You're in a precarious place with your grandparents. If you think you might lose your home, then you need to hold off, I think. Having a stable home, being able to finish school are SO important.

    But I very much get that its hard to be happy when you're in the closet.

    Back to your grandparents -- what makes you say they're strongly anti gay? Their religion? Things they say? Do they know anyone who is gay? I think we've all seen family that becomes accepting when its one of their own. Do you think that could happen with your grandparents?

    The guy you like -- do you know that he's gay? Sounds like you could use a gay friend...even if he might not become your boyfriend...
     
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    come out to your mom... seems like she'd suppourt you emotionally... even if she cant financially... she can help you talk to your Grandz?

    Id be a happy man if i could come out to my old lady...
     
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    I want to come out because some kids I like seem gay if I come out maybe they will come say hi for once. And grandparents don't like gays because of being heavy catholics
     
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    Well you could come out to them or say hi yourself. They might not say hi just because you are gay too. (If they are.)
    Grandparents: Have they said anything bad about gays? I have friends who are heavily religious but they are supportive.
     
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    Hmm let me see. I once had a talk about gay marriage right or wrong and grandpa said. If they ever legalized that it would be against the bible all those gays. And that one guy... I don't think he is and he doesn't really talk to me and I want to talk to him yet I am not part of social group so yeah
     
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    Being gay isn't against the bible though, it's against tradition. If you say that to your grandparents then they'll be proud of you for looking through the bible. It's against the bible to divorce but hardly anyone protests against that.
     
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    Not sure how the bible could have anything about being agains gays. It does however say things about not laying with a man as you with a woman. Considering that homosexuality was considered as more of a practice than a way of like some time before the ninties you would thind that the bible was speaking more about sleeping with a man that you have no feeling for just for pleasure and not reffering to the relationship.
     
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    Since it's going to affected ur living arrangements, idk if coming is great at this moment. You really should come out when you hav a lot of support (addition to many you hav on this site)...people who u can lean on and would give you hug & support u. Maybe you should start with coming out to ur friends. Does ur grandparents know ur friends well & will find out?? If not then definitely start out with ur friends.
    ^^ Good Luck dude!
     
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    Ok thanks to everyone who has commented. I am just about ready to come out to my mom, yet she doesn't get to see me until summer *_*. Real bummer but I have done some tests on myself like, I read a lesbian porn storyvwrong but I Just lost interest halfway though. So I found a gay one and I kept my eyes on that screen until I was done reading. I guess I am gay after all. Once again thanks everyone