As said by Paul, the thread got out of hand. But I wasn't getting much support anyway. So, thanks for those who did give some help. If you'd like to read the post originally, go the one that they closed. And please, don't mention posting anything. Twas my mistake. I apologized. :] Let us move on, shall we?
You think you'll do OK? I missed the thread the first time around, and can give support and/or advice if you still need it. Otherwise, I'll just say good luck. Lex
It was this one which went somewhat off the rails and lost its intended purpose. Don't worry Robb, it wasn't really anyone's fault. Feel free to post another thread about the situation if you wish, perhaps concentrating more on your feelings rather than his physical attributes!
Paul, Thanks for all your posts. You're helping me out while I'm here on EC. :] Your a great mod. Anywho. Lets focus this post on my feelings, instead of Robert's physical hottness. My feelings are mixed. Since posting the first post, I've thought about it non-stop and I've come to the conclusion; I like this guy. Even though we only talk occassionaly, I like him. I've played baseball with him, I've been in some of his classes, and when our eyes meet, and we smile at each other, or when we brush against each other, I feel that something is clicking. Whether it's our belt buckles or our chemistry, I'm still trying to figure out. I need/want to tell him. And I'm going to eventually. But other than "just talking", what's a good way to tell him about my being a bisexual guy that he's known for approx. 7 years, without trying to come on to him, and have him totally shut me out? As always, I appreciate the advice and suppourt from you all. You guys are truly a teriffic group of people.
My my, don't I know that feeling so well. (the thinking about someone non stop lol) There are so many good ways, im sure lots of people with give you ways to say it as well, I'll try to help ya. I always think it depends on the situation, if you're both alone or in a place where no one else can hear you, you could say "I've got something I need to tell you, its been bugging me for ages. I'm bi. And I hope we can still be friends" By saying "I hope we can still be friends" will derail him from thinking you like him sexually. Another way to do it is because you're out to a few people, you could get one of those people to help you. I like this method alot. One of my friends usually helps me tell people, and the thing is because hes so positive about it the person that finds out is positive too! Good luck Rob.
Crimson(Tom/Steve ) Has given some good advice. As long as when your coming out you sort of emphasize friendship, I think that'll keep him away from the sexual side of what could be implicated. Good luck, and tell us what happens!
I gave good advice?! LOL I just thought about that friendship thing just then too, I think thats a good method now! ^_^ Thanks ThatCrazyThang (Ty/Tyrone )
You gave amazing advice. However, I like the second method best. Intead of just bluntly telling him. I laugh when I talk about it with people who know, and I deny it when asked at school/in public. So, I think i'd have a messenger kinda person. Your advice is some of the best I've gotten since coming out to my first "ex" best friend. I truly appreciate all the advice from all of you. I'm slowly building up the guts to do it, but I'm still a LONGGG way away. :] Thanks guys. You guys are awesome.
Haa, Jess. My best friend. I made her join guys. Ha, she told me today she doesn't know if this post went or not. And indeed it did. She knows about me thining the things I do about the person I mentioned. :] Ha. Anywho. Someone give more advice, I'm starting to turn away from the idea bringing it up.
Well, if you both know someone that can act as an instigator, they can bring it up for you in a conversation that they have with him. After that, instead of just denying it when asked, you can affirm that you are bisexual, but you hope that he will still be your friend since you are just the same guy he has known for all of these years. It is sort of a tricky way of working your coming out, but if it works for you, so be it.
He's ignoring me. I sent him a message inviting him to my party this summer, and he read it, but didn't reply. I really like Robert. And I want to talk to him, and get to know him more. Ilikethisdude. There. I said it. This sucks. Counsel me.
It isn't necessarily that he doesn't like you though. It could just be that he is struggling to find himself. Therefore, he blatant ignoring may be because he doesn't want to be put in a situation that he isn't ready to deal with. I wouldn't force the issue on him, rather give him time. There is still a chance.
