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Is this rude?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by piratealisonnn, Apr 10, 2013.

  1. piratealisonnn

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    Is it rude to come out via text message? I have this friend who I only seem to hang out with when our other friend is present. The other friend already knows and I don't wanna bring it up while all three of us are hanging out. So I was thinking of texting her about it (since we don't talk on the phone or anything).

    Is it really impersonal/rude?
     
  2. how is this rude? isn't it really your decision to come out in whatever fashion you want to?
     
  3. Imgaymomgay

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    It's fine. I came out to my first person by text via its the Easter holidays. I live in the country so I have no way of talking to or seeing people without planning for ages in advance
     
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    I don't think it's rude.
    Texts are a natural way of life now. That's how everyone communicates.
    Some people come out in person. Some write letters, and others send text messages.
    Personally, it makes no difference :slight_smile: It's however you feel most comfortable about it.
     
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    There's no rude way to come out! There's also no wrong way of coming out. If it's your only option that would make it easier for yourself, then go for it! But remember there's no rush with these things. :slight_smile:
     
  6. JPC

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    I came out to my mother with an email. So a text message almost sounds intimate in comparison :lol:
     
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    I think its just fine
     
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    no its not rude.
     
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    It's your story. Write it how you want to :slight_smile:
     
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    Thats how I came out. to like everyone.
    So, no.
     
  11. Stridenttube

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    That's how I came out to my all of my friends. It's not rude at all, coming out is one of the hardest things you'll do. However you want to do it should be fine.
     
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    I came out to almost everyone of my friends via text messaging. It actually helped because I wasn't a sobbing mess, and I was able to type out my words and proofread it to make sure I didn't say something I didn't mean.
     
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    If it's rude then I owe my buddy an apology, lol. Seriously, come out on your own terms, by any means when you feel ready. Text is fine.
     
  14. Gazza123

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    Nah

    Tell people which ever way you want. After all its a very personal and important thing that you want to tell your friend which is brilliant by the way.

    I actually came out via text to my parents... Because it was the best way for me.
     
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    I don't think it's rude, I think you should do whatever you're most comfortable with.
     
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    I think it's fine, I've done it over text