Questions to expect when coming out to friends

Only answer things that you're comfortable divulging. With that said, here are some common ones, generally speaking:

-When did you know?
-Do you think that [guy / girl / xyz] is cute?
-How did you find out?
-Does this mean that [insert stereotype]?
-Have you had / Do you have a [girlfriend / boyfriend / xyz] ?

They may not ask anything at all. Who knows... =)

 

Basically what Luthan said. Also, if they're the same gender as you, they might ask if you have feelings for them.

 

Actually, it's been rather interesting how few questions I've been asked...

 

One I got a lot was: Really?

 

From my mother I got three "are you seriouses" and two "oh my Gods"

 

I'm only out to one person, and he took it really well, but the one question I got was "so wait... do you watch gay porn!? *disgusted look*".

 

the few that i got were
Friend: seriously?
Me: ya
Friend: no really c'mon. you're really gay?
Me: ya, i'm being serious
friend: ok, Seriously?!?!
me: yup
friend: ok that's cool

 

LOL, and how did you respond to that? When I was younger (and by that I mean a year ago LOL) I was always terrified that telling someone I was gay was the equivalence of saying "I like looking at pictures of cock". I'm really a prude when it comes to airing things like that about myself.

 

I came out as bi and questions included: does person x, y and z know? Are you dating a woman now? Id recommend typing into google some of the following: lesbian stereotypes and faq bisexuality/bisexual stereotypes...the first person you come out to would ideally be someone you know will be supportive

 

This. A lot.

And then, depending on how much alcohol has been consumed, they want details.

 

Ok, just a few of those common funny ones

1. You are? Oh, ok.. so, wait, you, like, want to do it with a guy?
2. Did you try it with a woman? Then how do you know?
3. Err.. you don't find me attractive, right? Ugh.. (a possible followup: "why not?!")
4. So does your gaydar work? Who of our friends is gay?
5. Ok, seriously, you really want to do it.. with a guy? Gross..

 

Actual lol.

I have a straight friend who to this day is disappointed I don't find him attractive.

 

I got this question from almost all the people I came out to, but without the disgusted look. I dunno why but if you answer yes to this question, it's enough for everyone to believe you are gay. If you say to them you watch straight/bi porn as well (well, let's suppose) they'd say "Dude, you are just confused, gay men watch gay porn only..."

Other questions I got were how is gay sex, if I am a top or a bottom, if men give better head than women - mostly questions related to sex, anyways :bang:

 

Or slightly more arrogant, assume you have feelings for them and try to politely turn you down.
(No kidding happened to a friend of mine)

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Also, specifically with bi and pan folks:
Are you sure you're not (just) gay/straight?

 

"Seriously" hilarious!! :icon_bigg

 

The questions I got were

How do you know?
How long have you known?
Do you have a boyfriend?


Or the ever popular - "I knew it"

 

Hah, honestly, my friends are unnecessarily open with each-other about this stuff. I guess it's to do with hormones. I kind of awkwardly said "yeah...", and the conversation continued with jokes like "Just watch straight porn. There's dick in that, too!". Clearly he doesn't really understand the whole gay thing.

 

So are you more gay or more straight? (Literally, asked every day, I don't tell anyone what I think I am because I don't know for certain yet)

 

Are you sure?
How long have you known?
Why didn't you tell me sooner?
What will your parents think?
Do you think I'm hot?
Do you have "gay friends".