I'm not sure whether I'm a lesbian or bisexual. I know I'm not straight. Because of this confusion I'm mostly in the closet. I'm still trying to figure out who I am and it's super annoying. I've heard that getting more experience helps, but how can I get experience when I'm in the closet? The only experience I had was a boyfriend at fourteen. I enjoyed holding his hand and cuddling with him, but I didn't enjoy kissing him. I've come out as bisexual to a few people. One of the people I've come out to kept on asking me if there was any boys I liked. She didn't talk too much about boys before I came out to her. After I came out to my parents they both both started to pay more attention to the girls I was checking out. I usually get pretty irritated about this. I also feel pretty uncomfortable talking about girls I like or find attractive with anyone. My dad also occasionally makes bad lesbian jokes. I'm pretty sick of being in the closet, but it's hard to come out when you don't have label.
Hey DevilKisses, I can relate a lot. I have very limited experience and also find it hard to come up with a label. I was very confused about my sexuality for a while. I still have doubts and confusion, but I'm on my way. A few weeks ago, the stress of living in the closet got to me, so I told a couple of friends about it. When we're together they joke about my sexuality. We can talk about it, and it was definitively worth telling them. When I came out to them, I simply admitted my confusion. I said I like guys but have some doubts and reservations. I don't think I like girls, but I'm not comfortable with ruling them out. I thought honesty was the best answer, and I have no regrets. So what's my label? "Probably gay" is what I'm going with. If you wanna tell more friends or family, just be honest if you trust them. You could just say you're bisexual. It covers women, which you're into, and men, which you might be interested in. You could call yourself "queer", which basically means "not straight", if you're comfortable with the word "queer". Or you could literally just say "not straight". All of these things imply an interest in women. At the end of the day, you don't need a label, but if you really want one to come out further, its up to you. Honesty to me seems like the best route. I wish there was a term like bi-curious, except for gay people who have some straight interests, rather than the other way around. Just be yourself and don't stress too much (which I realize is way harder than it sounds). Your situation sounds just like mine...except I have three years on you. Taking your time might also be a good option. What's the rush? Good luck, I wish you the best on coming out further!
I was thinking of coming out as bisexual, but I'm scared that people will try to pressure me into getting a boyfriend. I don't really want a boyfriend. I'd rather have a girlfriend. I'm not sure people would take my interest in girls seriously if I come out as bisexual. I also don't want to come out as a lesbian because I'm not a fan of that word and I'm afraid I'll fall for a guy. I'm not a huge fan of people thinking I'm straight either. It's a lose-lose-lose situation.
I'm just going to ask you a few question which people have asked me when I felt confused. Who do you check out the most? Who are you attracted to romantically? If you feel sexual attraction, is it for men, women, both? A good guide is who you fantasize during masturbation. Who do you see yourself with in the future? If being gay was completely acceptable, who would you be with? You don't have to answer all these questions but it might help you understand yourself more. These questions won't necessarily determine your sexuality, they are to be used as a guide to sort out your thoughts and attractions. Hope it works!
I mostly check out girls, but I occasionally check out guys. I usually get crushes on girls, but I think I have a crush on a male teacher right now. I usually feel sexual attraction for girls, but sometimes I've enjoyed gay porn. I usually think about girls during masturbation. Thinking about guys doesn't arouse me as much and it's kind of boring for me.
It's an ok word. I don't really want to use it because most straight people don't know what it means.
You could call yourself Bisexual. If you occasionaly like guys, I'd say you are probably Kinsey 5ish.
I have come out as bisexual before. The problem with that is that people put more pressure on me to date boys. I really hate being pressured to date boys. It absolutely drives me crazy.
