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think i might be gay but need adivce determening if i am or not

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by hazzard, May 1, 2013.

  1. hazzard

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    im 20 years old and recently ive had sex twice with a man, it felt quite right but im still quite attracted to women but equally as i am to men, i want to have sex more with men than i do women but cant determine if that makes me actually fully gay or not? i think i want to be gay more than i am but all i can think about is sex with men, can anyone help me out?
     
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    Are you sexually attracted to women? Or just men?
     
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    Don't worry about assigning yourself labels and just do what makes you happy.
     
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    Both, but i cant think about having a long lasting relationship with a woman, ive had long term relationships with women in the past but when i think about it now i cant really see it lasting.
     
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    It really can be confusing! I say, go with what your heart tells you. Its okay to still find women attractive, but prefer the company of men and having a relationship with a man. I think sometimes, we trap ourselves into sticking with one side or another and thinking "Well I am gay, so there for I cannot think women are attractive." I personally believe that you can still find all genders attractive, but prefer to have relationships with the same sex. I hope this helps.
     
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    I guess it kind of helps, thank you. I've had my fun with women so i guess its time to try and find out the other side of my sexuality and go for men a bit more :slight_smile:
     
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    Yeah, like That Kid said, don't give yourself a label. Just do what you like :slight_smile:
    I consider myself gay though because I'm not sexually attracted to women, just men. But I'm emotionally attracted to both. Although I don't really have any feelings like love for women (when it comes to relationships). It's confusing. But yeah. Could just be bisexual, you don't have to decide on that now.
     
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    Well i dont like not having a title, being it between isnt really my thing so i needed other peoples opinions to kind of help me decide if you know what i mean.