I find it really hard being gay and wish i was straight so i wouldn`t have these problems. Don`t get me wrong i`m proud to be gay but others who know me aren`t. I knew i was gay when i was 8 or 9. I got found out i was gay when i was 13. I fancied twins in my school that didnt feel the same way. I really had a big crush on them and at the same time was upset that i was having these feelings because i thought it was wrong. I told my friends that i fancied these twins and they went on to tell my sister. My sister told my mum which she put it down as a phase. It was forgotten then and back in the closet. One day when we went to visit my old sister i just had to tell her i was gay. I wrote a message on my mobile to my mum which i showed to my older sister she was fine with it. Then mum overheard us speaking and i showed her the message on my mobile hoping it would sink in that i am gay. No such luck. I had given up hope of ever coming out again and just not being me. I`m now 30 and a few weeks ago by accident my mum found out i was gay. Long story guys. Anyway i thought perhaps this time it will sink in because i didnt tell her. She found out. Again no so luck. She just sweeps it under the carpet as if it never happened. I want to talk to her about it. But she is a Christian and things it very wrong. I want a boyfriend in my life and to be happy. How can i do this if she doesnt accept i`m gay. I still live with my mum because of my chronic fatigue syndrome. So i cant go out myself. I dont know how to move this forward and for me to be me. Advice please.
Hi, At age 30 how does your mother prevent you from having a boyfriend? Her denial is her issue not yours.
This may help people understand your condition & why you don't have the energy to go out Chronic fatigue syndrome - NHS Choices Hope it helps (*hug*)
Our parents don't always like who we are in a relationship with, at the end of the day it is our choice & our parents cannot choose our partners, unless your parents are into arranged marriages If you are in the closet & your parents don't know that you are Gay, then being in a relationship with another man & introducing him to your parents would be a problem, but as your Mom does know that you are Gay, then it shouldn't come as a shock, when you start seeing another Man. Is an electric wheelchair an option, is there a ME support group in your area that can help with the costs? Is there a friend or family member that can take you out in your wheelchair? I hope you find a solution to your problem, as you seem a really nice Guy (*hug*)
There are mobility living, and disabled living allowance grants out there, would be worth getting in touch with your local council. Sorry I miss understood the "unable to go out" stuff.
