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Nervous and Questioning: Help Please?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Basketballstar, May 13, 2013.

  1. Basketballstar

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    I'm seventeen now and all my life I've thought I was straight, but now I think I might be bi. And now I'm a bit nervous. I'm not sure whether I am or not and I really don't know anyone I can talk to. My parents aren't exactly the most LGBT friendly and I'm not sure how to break it to them. Telling them I was almost 100% sure I had ADHD (which I now know for sure I do) was one thing but this is a whole other ballpark. And I'm kind of really nervous now. It would be nice just to have someone to talk to, so I came here.

    Do you guys have any suggestions/advice? I'd really appreciate the help.

    Sincerely,

    Basketballstar
     
  2. swilson

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    coming out to your parents is a very difficult thing,first you have to make sure your ready espeacialy for there reply. An that your in a comfortable setting for you and them...youll know in ur heart when your ready. I just came out to mine 4yrs ago and I wasn't present I sent my gf to there house alone because of my nerves,but after awhile and constant conversations there fine..you'll be fine.
     
  3. Basketballstar

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    Thanks. Yeah I'm not even sure if I really am or not. I actually am weird in the fact that I don't usually feel anything in the way towards guys or girls. But then I read some well pornish stories online and I was getting aroused by both and then I looked up some pictures and I still was. Even before that, I was still giving some girls the same pass I gave some guys and everything always got awkward. I just really wish I could talk to my parents about this. My mom's always been a constant, loving, strong support in my life through the hardest times and I always felt like I could talk to her about anything. But now... I almost feel like I'm hiding something and it's been leaving a bitter taste in my mouth whenever I spend time with my parents. I'm just really confused now and I wish I could stop feeling this way, that I could talk to them, at least my mom, but I'm too scared to even bring it up.
     
  4. Argentwing

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    You say your family's not the most LGBT friendly, but if this quote is true, it won't matter if they think gays are the destruction of society or not. Her love for you will overcome her hate for others.

    I'd say you're clear to talk to her about your questioning phase. I couldn't necessarily call it "coming out" if you're just trying to make sense of things, and she might give you some perspective on what you're feeling.
     
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    Unless or until you are in a relationship with a woman, I don't see the need to tell your parents or anyone you are nervous about. Focus on relationships with real people and discover what you feel for real men or women. Date who you want to date. You can date a guy you are attracted to and see how it feels. Then if you end up dating a woman at some point, then tell your parents. There is no need to tell them while you are not sure yourself yet. Porn is all meant to turn anyone on, so I wouldn't be concerned with that. Good luck girl :slight_smile: