Hi! I am a new member and please forgive me if there's a thread like this one. I didn't see one. My name is Jessica, I am 26, and I always knew I was a lesbian. I grew up in a small town and with a family that wasn't that accepting, so I was closeted most of my life. Now I am coming out to people but so scared about actually starting dating. I know it might sound silly but I am so scared no girl will want me at 26 without previous relationships. I've never had one..... male or female. I don't hold any expectations or anything, just want to see where something goes, but I am scared of being rejected before I ever get the chance! I am also a super femme and, so I think I may pass for straight a lot and so having other lesbians just "spot me" hasn't gone well so far, lol. Also very shy. And, if you have not guessed by now, I'm a virgin too.... Is there hope for me?
Yes there is Hope. I'm coming out at 45. Divorcing husband. Not much experience before that-married in my 30's. Nothing wrong w/being a virgin. You will find the right person when you least expect it. Lack of previous relationship experience might be attractive to a woman who is tired of dating women w/intense baggage from past relationships.
Thank you so much for the reply. Wow, I can't imagine how that must be and you seem very strong for dealing with that. Sometimes it seems so overwhelming.
You're definitely not alone! I too feel intimidated to jump into dating. I'm virtually the same as you except I'm not out and I'm a few years older. No relationships, no dating, and a virgin. I've never even kissed anyone. Now that I finally WANT to kiss someone, I'm afraid I'll be terrible at it. :\ But I've read our same story enough times here at EC that I can't imagine we're so rare as to be completely shocking in the LGBT dating scene.
Two years older, still a virgin, never even kissed someone, and very much in the same boat. It definitely does feel overwhelming but EC is a great place to come when it gets tough.
I wish EC was around when I was your age! I understand what you are going thru. I am a Lesbian virgin at 45. When I'm ready to date I worry that other lesbians might think I'm a just a "wannabe" because I was married to a man for so long. Or that I'm a little old.....
