Confusion....

Just like the people who say being bi / gay is wrong and that you shouldn't be, I think you shouldn't have to listen to the words of others to know who you are. There isn't anyone who knows the real you besides you. Never let people tell you what or who you should be. Like someones quote I saw on here (can't remember whos) Be yourself because everyone else is already taken.

 

alot of gay men and women can be very militant in their approach to bisexuality and that often comes from a place of insecurity. I have been messed about by men claiming to be bisexual before and it is hurtful. However, I do not discount bisexuality as a reality and think that those who would encourage you to define yr sexuality on their terms need to be reminded of how difficult it was for them to declare their sexuality to friends and family. Tell them that being bisexual is not their business and that their persecution of you reeks of militant gay behaviour, another stereotype we dont need. Yr sexuality is just that, YR SEXUALITY and is for no-one else to decide.

RFB

 

The state of bisexuality is fluid and therefore challenging. It is difficult to accept for many people because it is hard to pin down. But the fact is that if you are bisexual, there is nothing you can do about it. You may fluctuate between gay and straight times, but these are not under your control. For a bisexual, the choice is not between being gay, bi or straight, it is between being bi or supressing your identity.

I sometimes feel like I may be bisexual, and I gtet the same feeling wishing that I could be one of the other. But it's not a choice, I'm afraid. We are who we are. In fact, bisexuality has its plus points as well as its challenges. You have more oppurtunities, you are open to more different types of people, and your masculine and feminine sides both get their airing. I believe it contrubtes to a balanced person, the ability to relate to both sexes. And you can like who you like without any feeling that you're "betraying your label".

In the end, being bisexual is not a problem in and of itself. It's just that others/society tends to put pressures on bisexuals and make them feel bad about themselves in this way. That doesn't mean the pressures are not there, they definately are - but the way to overcome them is to develop your own self confidence, not to deny your feelings either way.

Of course, I've written all this with the assumption that you feel you are bisexual. If you're still unsure even of that, then this may not have been any help. But I hope it might encourage you a little not to feel bad about being yourself. Take pride and don't let others tell you who to be!