I'm sick of being in the closet, but I'm still unsure of myself

Well, first off, I know the questioning ordeal, I have questioned weather I am straight or not, bi or not, gay or not, the works! I know how tough it is because it is not fun living in the constant state of confusion. Second, don't let porn decide what it is that turns you on or not; many people here on this site will tell you that, I actually did not agree with them on that until I saw myself getting attracted to bestiality hentai. I own a little puppy right now, and to ever, EVER want to have sex with her or even get aroused by her is the day I'd want to die, but when I saw her one night and she cuddled next to me I realized that my porn fetish tastes were merely just overly intense sexual fantasies, that is all, and sexual fantasies especially intense ones are going to turn you on no matter what. I know now that I could and would NEVER hurt an animal in that way and I am actually very glad I am not going to at all now.

So tell me this, who have you had crushes on? Who have you had sexual attraction to, and do you see yourself or get turned on by deep thoughts (which ARE different from sexual fantasies) of men or women? Do tell because odds are from the lack of information you have given on the women aspect, it sounds as if though you are a Hetero-romantic pansexual, the fact you did not enjoy kissing him is probably because he was not the right one for you and you probably felt you two were going too fast, so I'd try to give it another go at a man and see how it goes, if not; then I guess you can just say your sexuality fluctuates as you get turned on by alot of weird stuff as you stated.

Don't worry about finding a label just yet, I can agree that labels do more harm than good because I cannot begin to tell you how many questions I get regarding my hetero-romantic asexuality gets ever since I came out to my mom and brother. And a few friends I told recently are also weirded out by it as well, so don't worry about it too much.

 

I think you might be a pansexual with a slight lesbian lean then, mostly due to the fact that you are now attracted to alot of other stuff as well as women and from what I can tell men. So I think you should accept that, if not; then go with Pomosexual (which means definitive or non explainable).

 

I think you should figure out your sexuality first before you come out. That is a process of knowing yourself, and it will make your coming out easily. Good luck to you findig yourself

 

You're lesbian. The attractions won't go away, no matter how deep you bury them, and in fact will probably only grow stronger the older you get. Your first step is to admit this to yourself, since what you're doing now only seems to be making things worse for you.

Porn doesn't prove anything - if it's the only time you're turned on by men, then you're probably not bisexual, and probably don't have an actual attraction towards the opposite sex. Porn can screw with your brain, make you feel stimulated by 'edgier' categories, especially when you're brain is still developing as a teenager and more easily shaped by environmental factors.

Besides, plenty of lesbians prefer gay porn to lesbian porn, since it's marketed to straight men and horribly inaccurate at describing their sex lives.

 

Hi DevilKisses,

I have read in several studies that women in particular show signs of sexual arousal no matter what sexes are involved in the porn. Straight women were shown to be aroused whilst watching both straight and lesbian porn - it really doesn't make a difference what your sexuality is. For women, in many cases, arousal is simply to do with watching the sexual scene. You may not have liked the lesbian porn simply because it is aimed at straight male fantasies and is nothing like real lesbian sex in most cases, so the contrived nature of it may have put you off.

Hope this has helped.

 

Going through a similar dillemma it took me till about a year ago to admit that im not straight to myself, so i thought well that was the hard part i guess i'm gay, I know what women are attracted and i think about getting with women but i guess i feel like its more... fun, and just the unknown. With guys its more lust excitement and just feels right, but theres still this little seed called doubt that i cant seem to get rid of, and it drives me crazy!

Its pretty much all thats holding me back from coming out, I have nights out and think why not just tell people? because its tiring holding on to a secret but again i dont want to come out until im sure.

Sorry to sort of hijack with my problem but i hope it helps,

I guess what i was saying was, what ive learnt from EC is that sexuality is a very complicated issue and it drives people to stress fear and even suicide, so just be true to yourself and dont go into denial ive seen people and met people and have also been the person to do so.

Again hope this helps x