I can't say it.

I had the exact same problem, so I said, "Let's get one thing straight - I'm not". Use that, then she'll ask if you're gay, and you can say "yes" - then you don't have to say it yourself .

 

LOL!!! I love that. I'm having the same problem, I was going to come out, but every time the words almost come out of my mouth, I can't make a sound, I just sit there for 2 hours stressed out.

 

Have you ever thought about writing a nice note or letter to her that can help you to come out, without actually saying anything out loud? There's also many other one-line statements (like the "Let's get something straight- I'm not" line that someone already posted) and creative ways to not completely come out to her but that can help to start the conversation.

 

Yeah I think writing it down is a great idea. That's what I did when I first came out. It's just much more simpler.

 

I had the same problem, I tried to tell my Mom but the words just would not come out, I too knew she would be OK with it, a few weeks later I told her that I had attended a Gay Pride Parade when she asked me what I had done over the weekend, this then prompted her to ask me if I was Gay & I said "yes" & she was OK with it, good luck when you can actually say those words & start being You

 

What helped me is repeating it over and over aloud, alone. Sounds strange, and if anyone heard me I'm certain that they'd think I was a complete nut job (who says I'm not? ), but it really did help.

The same thing worked the first day of therapy. I just stood outside the building (he's in a large office building) for about 5 minutes saying "I'm gay, and this is why I'm here". Again, people probably thought I'd gone mad, but whatever.

 

i agree with those previous posts. writing down really will be a good idea, it can actually prevent the confrontation coming too strongly.

 

I was so scared to tell my parents that I wrote a short letter, and gave it to them not ten seconds after writing it. (I also covered the letter in rainbows)

 

Perhaps put it on your mums bed or under her pillow or something? Then the only person likely to find it would b her.

 

This is one reason I wrote a coming out letter. It was a lot less pressure. Then you can follow up after they have had time to digest your letter with "What did you think of my letter?"

 

Agreed on the letter being less pressure, that's how I came out to my parents as well. Being that I live hundreds of miles from either of them, I sent them an email and left for work, with instructions in the email that I couldn't talk until after a certain time that day. What do you know, I get a call from my Dad way before the appointed time, I ignore it and leave the office literally shaking from fear.

Turns out that he hadn't read his email yet, and was calling to wish me a happy birthday . Our phone call later on that night went really well, actually!