How did you know you were gay?

No, I was 17 when it really hit me. I just kinda thought to myself one day, after hanging with a girl that I had dated, and a guy I liked. I got to the house, and I was by myself, and it hit me that I was just trying to fool myself. So no, I was the same age as I am now. It would seem that everybody realizes at a different time. Each person has their own path.

 

Hi there! My situation is similar to yours. For 14 years I thought that I was completely straight (even though I was a very feminine boy) and people was always calling me 'fag' and stuffs even before I realized that I am actually gay.
Then one day, it was like an epiphany for me. You know how some people gradually realized that he/she is gay. For me it took a second. I went from "never consider that I'm gay" to "Oh my :***: god, I'm :***: gay!"
When I was 14, there was this very famous advertisement of David Beckham wearing an Armani underwear. E! News was on TV and it was covering the story, and I saw the picture and it made me realized straight away, at that exact second. To make sure, I went on the internet and searched "How do you know if you are gay." After an hour of research, I was sure. Then i got really depressed...but that was a long time ago. Took me ages to finally accept myself.

 

When I was younger I had a pretty strong attraction to men/guys. I have known that i have been attracted to men my whole life, but accepting it took a lot longer. Every one is different so knowing for sure is sometimes complicated! I never had a crush on a girl and I always had small crushes on the guys I hung out with, for a long time I did think that was normal but about 10 I started thinking in a different direction. The beginning of puberty when porn was kind of shown to me I would always find myself looking at he guy and never the girl at all so I stopped watching straight porn really early haha! I think me taking to long to accept my fact was due to the fact that it all seemed so complicated and I already have a complicated enough life! All I can say now is I'm happy to be gay and could never picture my life any different

And for stereotypical gay kid things haha me and my sister use to play house all the time and she would always dress me up as a girl and do my makeup! I loved playing house more then any other game we played haha!

~Zack~

 

Well, looking back at it, I showed the SIGNS earlier, but didn't really accept it until last year.

Buuut basically, I preferred playing with dolls, I got dressed up in a blue dress once, and I fan-gasamed a lot over cute video game characters (I think Sephiroth was the first... shake my heaaad...lols).

So, basically, the stereotypical "I was into girl stuff"

 

Well for me since I was 12 I was pretty sure I was bisexual but recently I realized that there's no way I'm bi and that I am definitely gay

 

Hi,

Whoa there big fella... . Take a step back over something glossed over.

Guys have to be into girl things to be gay? I think you are falling into a stereotype trap.

Many more gay men do NOT fit a societal stereotype than do.

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I have always been gay and never interested in girl things, don't care about fashion, grooming. Nothing wrong with those things it just isn't me.

I am a average guy who loves men emotionally and physically. That is the only variation from societal "norms" for a quote "male".

 

I had no idea until 8 years ago in my mid 40s but over this time became increasingly aware and comfortable with the idea.

I knew 100% I was gay on 20th March 2013 when I wanted to have sex with the really cute boiler repair man on the kitchen work top whilst my wife was in the next room. I managed to restrain myself but came out to my very understanding & unsuspecting wife 3 days later.

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Well, surprisingly it weren't my exclusively same sex attractions that made me realize I was gay. It's scary how well (and long) you can lie to yourself if you really don't want to know about something.

In November I met someone I used to know before I was bullied for being gay, which made me change myself, a lot. Seeing and talking to her again made me realize how different I used to be and started to think about it all.
Then I finally let myself watch the Supersizers Go Wartime and a few days later I realized how in love I was with Sue Perkins, which would not have been that unusual, as it happened many times before, except this time, I actually wanted to sleep with her.

That realization came completely out of the blue and was immediately followed by 'Oh.My.God! I'm gay.' In reality, it was a longer process until I could even write about being attracted to women in my own, private diary. (I know I did something like 'a******ed to w**en') I couldn't even say it.

To me, discovering I'm gay is more of a 'finally being able to be myself' than anything else. I've finally started becoming the person I used to be before being bullied and forcing myself to change. So that's the best thing about it - being able to be me and not feeling like I have to pretend anymore. And I became a bit more confident as well, not much but I feel the need to kill myself less often than I used to.

 

Watched porn. Realized I was watching for dick.
Watched gay porn. "Oh my dear god man's body is beautiful."

oImGay.

 

^ lol me exactly. Fair enough, I played with cars and dolls when I was young, both boyish and girlish, but realised I watched straight porn for the guy - that's not to say I've never been attracted to women, I have, but it just feels right with men.

 

I knew I was attracted to guys when I was really young, but it didn't really hit me why until I was 17.

That, and all my friends keep talking about how hot girls are, and I'm like "what? There's a girl here?"

 

It's kinda funny because it was my first girlfriend that told me about sexual orientation. She said she liked "bi guys" and i was young, made out with my best friend a few times and liked making out with him more than the next 3 girls that I dated. (DISCLAIMER: I was not dating all of these people at the same time. That would be way too much work. )

 

I always knew. Pretended it didn't exist until I was 13 then continued with no not me. 14 is when I gave up and accepted it.

 

I have known for years that I appreciated the female body, but I never considered that it would change my orientation. About 3 months ago I had a dream about Alex Kingston. In my dream, we were dating. Had brunch, held hands, talked, and walked around. I woke up and was so sad because I was so happy in the dream. I realized that there was much more than an appreciation for the female body.

I came out as bi to my husband. A while later, I came out to my brother and he came out at bi to me. The more I soul searched and looked back at growing up, I realized that I have always been a lesbian.

 

I first started to question when I was 12 and noticed that my feelings towards my young, female teacher (eek!) weren't just a result of liking her subject. Looking back, there were signs from when I was as young as 3 and was obsessed with one of the female newsreaders. I didn't actually fully embrace my identity until about October, even though I had never been homophobic or disgusted with myself because of my feelings.

 

I found myself looking at male hero in movies instead of the scantly clad women.

Also there was a boy in my English class in 6th grade, things happened down there when I looked at him and not when I looked at the girls.

 

i knew when i was 14. i was just curious i guess. i saw gay porn, and i liked it (but i didn't accept it for a year). i then realized that i was depressed holding back these feelings. i knew that i would be so much happier if i just accepted who i am. now i'm fine with it and out to 2 people, and i feel happier now than i have in over a year.

i never really saw it coming, being as i was never into girl stuff, and i don't seem gay whatsoever (even the gay people i came out to were VERY shocked). i guess i just assumed that all gay people were effeminate. but i realized that you don't have to fit the stereotypes to be gay.

 

Well I think it started around sixth grade, but I refused to accept it until about last year. It was around that time that most of the girls in my grade started to *coughcough* "develop" and I definitely took notice. I also used to dance and I would find myself looking a lot at all the other girls in their tight leotards and stuff xD I brushed it off as just being a bit curious. Then this year, I started realizing what jerks most guys were. Even my dad and other men seemed to think of themselves a lot. I think what finally made me accept it was that when I closed my eyes and imagined myself it the future, I always saw myself with a girl and not a boy. But I by no means hate guys. I just don't find myself attracted to them. Just making it clear