Should I tell my roommate I'm gay?

I'd be up front, just so that it doesn't come up in an uncomfortable way..but it's also being honest at the start with someone you'll be sharing living space with will help you bond and build trust

 

For what it's worth, I went through this whole exact same process when I moved into residence in my first year, and again when I moved into my student house off-campus in second year. Both times I decided against telling the person/people in question.

I'm a pragmatist at heart, so the questions I asked myself in deciding were:

1) What do I hope to accomplish by telling him/them now?
2) What can I realistically change about the situation now if they're not cool with it?

I ended up answering for myself that there was very little to accomplish and nothing I could really change, so I just held off on telling them. Your situation might be different though, so perhaps you can come up with a different answer.

Also keep in mind that you're just starting a relationship with this person. If you lead with "oh by the way, I'm gay", that's going to be one of her first impressions of you and probably one of the more defining features she'll be thinking of you as. I don't know about you, but despite how big a deal we like to make our sexualities out to be, I'd hope that I don't make mine a big part of my everyday life, and I don't want everyone else doing the same.

 

As I tell anyone going into college, yep. Get it out now. I wish I had. It will make your life a little easier.

 

Watch this?

"SHould i tell her I am gay?"
pfft! Please!

Sister, I think the question you should be asking is, should she tell you she is straight!?
No. Ain't no body announcing "I'm straight". So why bother announcing "I'm gay".

It ain't diplomatic status. It ain't no special illness and It most definitely isn't the plague.
Girl, you going to school for an education. Go get it! Go get it. Make new friends, but TRUST NO BITCH.

Full stop.

 

I think that if you are definitely going to tell her I would wait until she has your "trust" and then tell her over facebook. It will avoid the awkward conversation. If you don't know how she will react wait a little while and see how she reacts to dramatic things. Although I do agree with sexyalex, why should we have to tell people we are gay if they don't have to tell us that they are straight. Anyway, tell us what happens!!

 

Everyone else seems to disagree, but I think you should tell her. Just say it casually like it's no big deal to make sure she doesn't have a problem with it.

In my experience, being Catholic doesn't necessarily mean she's homophobic. My parents are Catholic and both have said they don't have a problem with it and agreed with the Supreme Court's decision yesterday.