Came out to some old friends!

I thought I'd share this for encouragement, to show that sometimes you fear when there is nothing to fear.

Very recently I came out to a group of very old friends whilst we were out, while we were all together. Even though I didn't think they had problems with homosexuality, they have always known me as straight, and whilst I do, they know of no (openly) gay people, so I was a little worried. I was worried about how they'd react at my perceived lying all these years and the fact that something about an old friend appeared to have changed. I was also worried that the dynamic between us all would change (we're all girls and very touchy-feely). I was too afraid to come out to them (and myself) when younger.

Anyway, aided moderately by alcohol, but nevertheless planned, I came out when we were talking about men and they asked me if there was anyone new, or any cute guys I had my eye on. I said no, but that there was this woman that I was kind of in love with, as well as this guy I have a sort of crush on (yes, I like two people at present...complicated...). They were like, oh cool. And then the questions were just about if they were available, if I'd got anywhere with them. I mostly talked about how much I was in love with this girl, and the advice they offered was *exactly* as it would have been if she had been a guy.

At one point I did say "yeah so I'm kinda bisexual" after saying about the woman, but it was not even an issue, and they were giving me exactly the same advice as if she were a guy... they didn't even act shocked, or anything, but commiserated with me over the fact that neither of them are working out.

So yay yay yay to my friends!! (!) (!) (!) I mean, it wasn't even necessary for me to say "I'm bisexual" or anything - I only said it because I thought they hadn't got the point of what I was saying! I only said it because it was like me saying "hey guys, you realise I've just come out to you, don't you?". It was just that when they asked me if there was anyone new, I mentioned that I was in love with this woman, and that I was really upset because it wasn't happening, and the discussion turned around *this*, rather than the fact that she is a woman. Yay!

AND: THEY DIDN'T ASK ME HOW LONG I'D KNOWN, DIDN'T ASK IF I WAS SURE, DIDN'T SAY IT WAS A PHASE, DIDN'T SAY I WAS CONFUSED, DIDN'T ASK WHY I HADN'T SAID ANYTHING EARLIER, DIDN'T ASK IF I'D EVER HAD A CRUSH ON ANY OF THEM; BUT RATHER, THEY ACCEPTED ****IMMEDIATELY**** AND TOOK MY WORD FOR IT THAT I LIKED THIS WOMAN. AND ALSO THIS GUY. AND WERE CONCERNED ABOUT ME GETTING HURT, NOT MY SEXUALITY

Sorry about the capitals. But my friends deserve the capitals. Plus several of them have asked me how it's all been going since then, so it is being talked about even since then and isn't being ignored as a topic, but rather the conversation is totally natural, as it would be about a guy.

So - I was REALLY worried, but it went EXCEPTIONALLY well!! So yay! (And take some optimism and hope from this). The ONLY time I have had NO questions at all! Just straight acceptance, as in, they clearly realise that *I* am the only one who knows my sexuality... (!) (!) (!)

 

You have a bunch of great friends there. Give them a cookie for me the next time you hand with them, ok?
(*hug*)
I'm so proud of you.

 

AWW I'm so chuffed for you!!! (*hug*)(*hug*)(*hug*)

I'm really glad it all went so well and what a lovely reaction from your obviously brilliant mates - we need more people like that!!

 

Thanks! And good to see you around