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came out to my mom (2)

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by silk, Sep 17, 2013.

  1. silk

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    so I posted this yesterday: http://emptyclosets.com/forum/coming-out-stories/109126-came-out-ot-my-mom.html
    feeling a bit better. I can still remember everything, but it feels like a dream. Just saying those words "I am gay" to my mom feel so unreal.

    after I said it, 2 times, because she said "what?", she started asking questions.
    I would rather have no questions, but yeah, can't always get what you want.
    She said it's okay, I can't do anything about it. She asked me how long I already knew, I said "about 1 year I think", she asked why I didn't tell her sooner, just kept quit.
    Was just thinking about how I still sometimes have the feeling that I may just be totally wrong, wanting to be straight, that I still don't have the feeling that I know for sure, so asking something likes this was a question I actually couldn't answer, but I just said one year.
    She said I should maybe join an organasation for gays/BI/Lesbians.
    She asked me if I had a boyfriend, the problem is, in dutch, the word boyfriend is translated as "friend" and just a friend to. So I was kinda confused.
    just asked: "how do you mean?" then fastly answered no.
    then after a while she asked: "wxhat about your brother?" (I'm a twin), probably not knowing that if one is gay, both aren't necissarily gay. I just said I didn't know, I know for a fact he is (he doesn't), but I didn't want to tell her. I don't even think he's out to anyone.
    One of the reasons that I wanted her to know was that I wanted to buy a rainbow bracelet. Bought it.
    Now I'm ready to come out to my whole school, finally comming out of this dusty boring and anoying closet...

    sidenote: The biggest problem that I found telling her was saying those words.
    Do Straights go to ther mom and tell them: "I'm straight"?
    No, so why should I do it? isn't it weird? Isn't it the same?
    I found it weird to say something like this.
    But it turned out pretty well.
     
  2. greatwhale

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    Congratulations! The next "interesting" time is when you will bring home a boyfriend for the first time (or "friend" if you prefer) :grin:
     
  3. silk

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    well, that's one I'm looknig forward to :wink: