My Dad found out and told everyone. He walked in on my jerking off to gay porn, he just stopped, was silent and just told me to get out. I just burst into tears. I dunno wat to do. He just gave me a suitcase like a 2 hours ago and he wants me out. I have now fucking place to go or anything. This will probs be my last message for a while. Nobody is home at the moment, My dad and mam packe dmy younger sublings into a car and drove off. they want me fucking out by the time they cum back. I just got a text from a mate who said i cn stay wit him tonight. I'm a mess, i cnt stop crying or shaking. I feel like ending it.
stay strong! go to your friend's house tonight, maybe your parents are overreacting, give them some time. i suggest going to pflag.org and find some local support groups and possibly safe places to stay around your town. best of luck to you my heart is with you, dont give up!
I'm very sorry to hear that this has happened to you. We'll all keep you in our thoughts. I hope things get better and maybe dad and family comes around. Hang in there.
Hang in there man. What happened is terrible, and I can only imagine what you're feeling right now. I'm so sorry things turned out the way they did. All I can really say is maybe your dad just needs a little bit of time. I don't know what for, but sometimes time sorts things like this out. I'll be thinking about you. I hope things work out!
I am so sorry about what happened which completely sucks and is so confusing but you gotta stay strong if your friend is making you an offer to stay at his house I would definitely take it maybe he can help you sort out your feelings. I hope your dad realizes that in his anger he overreacted which happens a lot of the time I hope everything gets better we are all here for you and thinking of you just don't give up Sam keep us posted if you can I hope everything works out
That is terrible. I echo what everyone else is saying and, with your permission, I will light a candle for you.
Same here... I hope this all works out. I hope your friend can help you, and I hope you are able to get back with your family. AND DON'T YOU DARE END IT! We love you. Your friends love you, and you need to get past this. Stay strong and show them that you are proud of who you are. Show them that it's WRONG that they aren't accepting you. I hope this works out beautifully. We all care about you, and will be thinking of you.
I'm pleased you have somewhere to stay for the night, so you are not sleeping rough. In the short term you need to be practical. You need to find somewhere to stay where you are safe and can get fed. If friends or relatives can help you that's great, if not then you need to go to the relevant support groups straight away. From your IP address I think you are in ******** and from another post you have made you are 16. I would say the best thing you can do if you need help with somewhere to stay is to call ChildLine on 0800 1111. The call is free, even from a mobile. They will be able to help with the short-term issue of your safety. They may also, if you wish, be able to contact your family for you and see if something can be sorted out there to get you back home. Take care of yourself. Please let us know how you are doing as soon as you can and we can go from there.
Well, I don't know if you will see this post - but hopefully you will get the good advice from Paul. All I can really add is to say that, as far as I am concerned, I would believe your dad is doing this because of his own insecurities and inability to handle the situation. Hopefully that may change as he thinks more about it. Personally I just cannot see how someone could cast out their own family because of their sexuality - something over which one has no control. Of course, he likely doesn't understand that. Hopefully, now that this has happened he (or your mother?) may research more thoroughly - and maybe become more accepting. I certainly hope so. Whatever happens - life IS precious. We all go through tough times. The trick is to make yourself believe "I am better than this - and I am better than them...and I'm going to show them"...then get on with life and find a way around the "obstacles" placed in your path. It may not be as comfortable or as easy a path as it would have been with the support of your family - but that doesn't mean that you can't succeed. There are a lot of helpful, supportive and understanding people out there (hell, we've got a lot of them on this site). The info Paul has given you is a good start - but there MUST be many more. If it comes down to it - you have to start looking for the support, find it and use it - and go forward. Good luck - I hope you get back to us - and I hope you find the right mindset, good help and the right way to move ahead.
Hiay Peeps, Thank you all so much for your support. It means so much. I'm home now. My oldest sister spoke with my mother and father last night and she got them to let me come home. My mother is okay with it, she said she already knew -- Motherly instict. I havent seen or spoken to my dad yet and im terried of wat he is going to say. The atmosphere in my house is usally bubbly with eveyone havin a laugh but now its just quiet. Nobody id talking. My oldest sister os beign a great help, she understands is trying to act like numthin has happend, she has a lot of gay freinds as has said if i wnt sum1 to tlk too who might be going threw or been threw somthing like this she can ring them up and ask them for me. I spke to my younger brother and sister aswell, they said that they dnt care because "youre still your same ole self". Im so glad to be home now, last night was so wierd and so surreal. Thanks guys, ill fill ya in if anythin else happens
Wow - that's brilliant news. I'm so pleased you are back home, safe and well. You owe your sister a big hug, I reckon - she's a star! I was worried about you being out on the streets with nowhere to go and no means of supporting yourself, particularly after the way you were thrown out and the state you were in. It sounds like your dad is somewhat outnumbered there - your mum is OK with it, as are your sisters and brother. I'll be interesting to hear what (if anything) your dad says when you next see him. Have a look at the Parent/Family Stages of Grief thread here. It lay help you understand the stages your dad is going through and explain why he is acting weird. Take care of yourself, and let us know how things go with your family over the next few days/weeks. (*hug*)
Wow... Well, I'm glad that you're back in your house. Your sister sounds like she's been amazingly supportive. I'm glad that you've been lucky enough to have her in your life. Well, keep us informed about what happens. We all care about you, and wish you the best.
I'm so sorry that happened to you, but at least things appear to be improving. I guess it just becomes too big of a shock for some parents and others to handle at first, but hopefully your relationship with your father will only improve from here on out. Good luck and keep us updated!
I'm so glad to hear that you're back at home. I hope things start to look up for you with your dad. Keep us posted.
Wow. I'm so glad this worked out as well as it did. As Paul said, your dad is outnumbered. Hopefully, in time, he will be able to come around. And your sister sounds like an amazing person. :icon_bigg
I've never been more happy in my life. Yesterday, me and my dad spoke, and just walked into my room hugged me and said sorry, explaining to me why he over-reacted. He said it was just shock and he just didnt think. Everything isnt the way it used to be - It's better. Everyone is telling me that iam back to being the person i was 2/3 years ago, a fun, liely, happy person. But, today, the most amazing thing happend. Word spread arounf my class in school tat i was gay and then i kept gettin text messages from people saying 'well done' and 'we wont treat you any diffrent' and then about an hour or so ago a knock at the door from my mates from school, they never kncok for me usally because they live really really far away, they said they heard the news and wanted to see if i was okay. It was so cool.
Wow - it just gets better and better! Your family and your mates all completely cool about it all. I bet you won't forget this week in a hurry. The week your life completely changed.
Hey, I'm glad that things have turned out so well! :icon_bigg It's a bummer that your dad flipped out at first and caused you such bad feelings, but it sounds like you can forget about that now. What a relief!! I'm glad your coming out has been so well received at school. That's how it should be for everyone. Being gay is just one variation of sexuality and only part of the combination of characteristics that make each of us a unique and valuable human being. Best wishes for your future!!
Excellent! Sounds like a bad start and a really positive conclusion...Oh - and I agree with what Paul said about your Sis - seems she was really the catalyst for everything coming good.
