So I've been going back and forth about coming out to my family. I feel like if there are people in the world that love me the most it would be my immediate family. Plus I don't think I could ever live with myself if someone told them I was interested in girls before I could tell them myself. I'm 18 and headed to college next year. I'm really tentative about coming out to them now because in a few years what if I fall in love with a guy? I understand that we don't need labels and we don't need to ever come out but without labels and coming out I feel so alone. It's hard for me to identify with girls my age because we have totally different views on dating etc. I feel like I'm in no-mans-land.
I think you should come out when you're ready, but if you are worried about the label thing, I think it makes sense to either hold off until you're more certain, or just come out as a lesbian or bi or whatever you feel like right now. It doesn't matter if it changes in a week, or a month, or a year or never because the people who care about you most shouldn't and probably won't hold you to that. As for dating views, I'm the same way. I know once I come out people will probably ask why I never dated like most of my friends. Part of it is because I was still unsure about my sexuality (I never questioned it in high school but I was pretty sure I didn't like guys) and part of it is because I'm shy and still unsure of how to go about asking a girl out! It's awkward territory for sure but I hope this helps even a little bit!
