this is gonna be long, very long so about a week ago I asked for advice on EC about coming out and the feedback was great (I actually need to go to that thread and thank them) so anyway this is how it went down I have like 5 friends who are those friends for life kinda friends so anyways I'm a heavy social drinker (I can get drunk on a Wednesday) and so these guys know sober me and drunk or high me so how I was able to stay in the closet even after being only 1% sober only God knows ... anyway after about 2 weeks of playing worst case scenarios in my head I decided to just do it (come out) and it went something like this I sent four of those friends (remember there's 5 friends) the following message : "quick question, what would be a deal breaker to our friendship?" I got the following replies friend 1: um nothing I can think of friend 2: well only if you chow my girl (you can imagine my happiness here) friend 3: nothing friend 4: youre my n word, nothing so now to confuse you, before I sent those messages I told friend 1 that I'm gay and she was super awesome, told me that I shouldn't let anybody bring me down Then I created a whatsapp group where I added those four friends and titled it "surprise" with my avatar as the group pic ... and my idiot friends except the one I told where all confused so I said "hey friend 2 said that his deal breaker was me with his girl and I said chances of that are 0% cause I'm gay the following were their replies "guys (my name) is drunk" "yeah he is" "dude stop lying" and about 3 more of these types of replies so then after convincing and swearing to God that I'm gay (I cannot believe I had to convince people I'm gay) they started to believe me anyway it sank in with them and this is where friend 5 comes in Now friend 5 is homophobic, very homophobic and about 2 years ago in school he had an oral on homosexuality, the following are quotes from it: "If I was incharge, gays would die" and everyone's favorite "it's Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve" anyway he hates gays and that's why I didn't add him at first so enter friend 5 to the group after all above past and he's like: dude are you serious, have you made out with a guy and he's so shocked ... anyway I'm gonna let him sleep on it Then I asked them about putting it on Facebook (the same question I asked EC) and they're like dude you've got to tag us on Facebook (at this point I'm like gosh I love my friends) and so I put it on Facebook as follows : "These guys know I'm gay, what about you?" (I tagged all 5 in the post) ... it's pretty late so I'm expecting a result from Facebook tomorrow morning. and that's my coming out story, I overplayed 10000 worst case scenarios in my head and got better than my best case scenario thank you EC for encouraging me
Congratulations on coming out and it's amazing that you got such positive reactions, for the most part. Friend 5 will probably come around...and if he doesn't, his loss. You're really brave for putting that on facebook. Good luck.
What a great story! Congratulations for your courage, your sense of humor, and your friends! (!)(!)(!)
Wow, congrats on that!! I think that's absolutely awesome. It usually isn't the worst case scenario, and once it's done you're kind of like, "What was the big deal again?" I'm really happy for you.
guys thank you so much for your messages ... anyway friend 5 is coming around although I feel all he did was sweep it under the carpet cause everytime we talk it's kinda the elephant in the room but I told 3 more friends (I limited my facebook post to a few people) and they're being total idiots just like everybody else I mean I didn't expect a parade but gosh I just came out, a little celebration would be nice cause like the whatsapp group I created about me coming out is now about flappy bird in just 3 days -_- ... anyway 1/30 responses to be the only kind of negative (friend 5) I think that's better than if they threw a parade for me
That's a great story, and even more so that not only were they cool with it, they had your back enough to be tagged in the post. That's awesome!
Congrats! Such a clever way of coming out, leading your friends to it with those opening questions--so glad you shared it on Facebook because it will encourage others who may be scared to come out. You're a hero!
I had to bet for 100 euros that I was gay ... That was the dealbreaker, than they believed me and haha, cool story, you went so fast!
