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Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by Derek the Wolf, Jul 21, 2008.

  1. Derek the Wolf

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    Well I've made the decision. I'm gonna try to tell my mom today that I'm bi. If it goes well, I'll tell my father tomorrow. Having only told a couple of trustworthy friends, I really feel ready for this. I'm just so nervous... I'll tell you guys how it goes (It won't be until 6-7 tonight, central time). My mom had no trouble accepting me as an atheist, hopefully this won't be much worse.
     
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    Good luck! Make sure you print off some of the PFLAG materials for her to read. They are at the top of Support and Advice in a sticky titled PFLAG publications.
     
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    Good Luck! Hope it goes well for you. Let us know how it went.
     
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    Good Luck..:thumbsup:
     
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    I don't think you'll need luck. but you may need a bit of confidence, so I wish you that instead. :slight_smile:

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    Ill go with Lex's idea...I wish you confidence! :lol:
     
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    Good Luck Hope It Goes Well
     
  8. hope it goes good
     
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    yay for you!!! luck ,confidence ,and a billion dollars if it doesn't go well!!
     
  10. Derek the Wolf

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    Dernit, she's teaching my sister to cook lasagna. Of all the days...
    I'll have to talk to her after dinner. So long as it's before 9 (that's when my dad comes home and I'm not ready for him to know just yet).

    Anyway, thanks for the luck and confidence everyone. I got a PFLAG thing for her to read after we talk, and I think I've summoned up the balls. Nervous....
     
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    good luck and confidence:thumbsup:
     
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    And we are outta here! It didn't bother her at all. My mom said she just wants her children to be happy, and it doesn't bother her at all that her son is bi. She also tried telling me things like I wasn't the first person to be gay and it wasn't uncommon. I chuckled and told her that I'd researched this a little (I research facts on everything meticulously, which she knows). She said it wasn't anyone's business except mine and my partner, be they male or female.

    The downside is she also told me that it's best not to tell my father, which knowing him, isn't hard to understand. We've never been close, and he's not exactly the understanding. And considering he's in the position to finance college for the next four years, I figure it's best not to tell him for a while.

    On friday I told my best friend. On Saturday I told 2 friends and my sister. On Sunday I told a few more friends and prepared for today. Today I told my mother. This weekend has been a successful. Nobody's taken the news badly, but I will be keeping this from my father. All in all, I'd say I've accomplished these four days than I have in the past year.

    Thanks a million to everybody here who wished my well and gave me advice. I'm sure I'll need more of it in the future, and hopefully I'll be able to give some out as well.
     
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    Wow! That's awesome to hear! Glad your mother was so rational and caring about it. She sounds like a great mom. And I hope that things go well with your father too whenever you decide to tell him, be it this year or half a decade down the line. Congrats!
     
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    Congratulations on coming out to your mom. I am happy for you that it went so well. It's great that your mom is supportive and has accepted it. Great! As you said, take your time with your dad. There is no rush. You will know when the time has come.

    Congratulations! :slight_smile:
     
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    Cool deal. And if you haven't done so, thank your mother, and tell her how awesome she is. :slight_smile:

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    congrats!! a big weight must have been lifted off your shoulders!
     
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    that's awesome hon! it sounds like you have a great mother, and i hope in time you can come out to your father too.