tryna come out, problem is..

If you are not sure about gay/bi,I don't recommend a date with a girl,it'll hurt you both.Think about what you are dreaming(guys or girls),think about what you fantasize,maybe a porn could help...just don't start nothing if you're not sure.

 

haha that woud be saying something...."YOU TURNED ME GAY!!"


If you are attracted to her...chances are its only going to grow the more intimate you get.
If on the off chance you are gay and not bi, explain it to her...

 

are you out to her as bi? If you are and you really like her go ahead and date her. If you don't feel ready because questioning is too much, give it time. There is nothing wrong with that.

 

Well, I have little experience with relationships, but if you really like this girl you can't string her along until you find out whether you're gay or bi or what. So either hold off on dating her until you figure out what you want, or just be open with her and tell her that you really like her and want to see what happens but you're open to being with a guy and don't know what that means

I don't know, I don't actually know what I'm talking about. Just go with the flow

 

I'm in a similar kind of situation, except I'm out as "not straight, probably gay, though maybe bi, but with a strong lean towards guys" (wow, complicated!!!) to her. We're good friends and do a lot together, she's pretty great actually!

She's recently confessed to liking me in that "more than friends" kind of way. I'm really not sure where I stand exactly, and until I've been with a guy I'm not going to feel comfortable being with a woman again as I'd probably always be wondering "what if...", and just feel like I was stringing her along.

So, that's what I told her.. She understood, and said she expected that'd be the case, but just wanted me to know. We're still good friends, I just hope it's not too hard on her - I've been in her situation and it wasn't fun!

 

Most important thing: Don't come out until you're sure one way or the other. Telling your friend will be that much harder if you're not certain. Read about it, think about who you're really attracted to, and decide from there. As for telling your friend, try to do it in a casual setting free from any distractions, where you have his full attention. As for Brittany, don't start dating her until, once again, you're sure of your orientation. From what you've told me you're probably bi, but bisexual people always lean in one direction. If you lean towards guys and are dating a girl, well I see no way for it to end well. Take some time before you tell Dan or start dating Brittany and figure out exactly who you are.

 

Thing is thought, that people are allowed to switch i think. Well if there's confusion about it like there is in your case. Because sexuality isnt just black and white, you're not just gay or straight or bi. They dont work like labels. You could be Bi, but leaning more towards guys than girls. If you are attracted to her, chances are you are at least bi. Althought i guess the question of are you physically attracted to her would have to come up. I think you should just wait it out, see if she ends up feeling the same way about you. Then you should probably tell her that your bi, just to keep it an honest relationship if it happens.

 

For me I love guys but I find some females very attractive. Only thing that makes me gay not bi is that I know I could see myself in a relationship with a guy and definitely have no real sexual or physical attraction to girls, I'll see them and be like "she is gorgeous" but I know I would never try to date her because I would have no real feelings for her. Basically I didn't try dating girls to figure it out, I dated girls way back five years ago because I thought I mighta liked them but there was no spark ,no feeling of cloud nine when i held hands, and heck I never once kissed them, but when I kissed my first boyfriend the first time, it was basically fireworks, light as air, on cloud nine feeling. I don't know if that helps but that's just the case for me and maybe it's similar to yours. Good luck figuring it out, once you truly know who you are you'll feel great.

 

why dont you just tell your best mate that youre into guys.... but youre not putting a label on it cus youre not quite sure yet, but you wanted to let him know.

and this girl... i think that you should be honest with her in terms of liking the menz.... but tell her that you do like her and you just wana go out with her - on a relaxed level - to see if it leads anywhere...