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Woohoo! I did it!

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by bigcityboy, Jun 27, 2014.

  1. bigcityboy

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    I finally did it! I came out last night to my older brother and two very close friends on the subway after a fun last-day-of-school beach day. I knew all three were going to be fine with it because we live in one of the most liberal cities in the world (we have the big green lady if you get me). They were all very supportive even though I was freaking out a bit, my brother gave me some hugs and my close guy friend (there was a guy friend and a girl friend) was extremely cool and not awkward about it at all. Maybe they knew all along, or at least had suspicions... I was really freaking out after I told them and almost cried. I actually had to count to a hundred a few times and keep repeating "I am gay" in my head over and over during the long train ride before I told them. Today I hung out with the same people and more friends and I feel great! We didn't talk about it today, partly because I asked them to keep it secret. But they reassured me that I could talk to them whenever I needed them. It takes a lot of courage, I know it did for me. But if you tell the right people, it will be fine and nothing will change between you and them. Just make sure you're ready, I was bursting before I told them, they could tell I had something bothering me. I just wanted to share my story, because I'm excited, I hope it helps and that it goes well for others. I'm definitely not completely out yet, but I think it's a good start!
    I want to thank the EC community for giving me strength when I read and followed your stories and for helping me find the courage to come out. You guys are amazing!
     
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    Congratulations on coming out!! :grin:
    That's awesome to hear.
     
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    Brilliant! That's a good reaction for your first coming out, hope all the rest go the same way! And yeah, spending time with people always feels better when you're out to them in my experience.
     
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    Well done! :thumbsup:
     
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    Good job, now take a breath :lol:
     
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    Congratulations! So glad to hear it went well!(*hug*)
     
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    That's excellent. (!)
     
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    That's awesome, man. Hope it goes well for everyone else you tell. :slight_smile:
     
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    Congratulations :slight_smile:
     
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    That's awesome, congrats!!! :slight_smile:
     
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    Excellent - well done!!
     
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    Thanks for the support everyone. Everything's been pretty good since Thursday night. I've been hanging out with my brother and those two close friends (along with other friends that don't know yet) every day since, and they haven't treated me any differently. It's almost like I didn't come out at all, except I feel a lot better than I did when I wasn't out to them. I'm a bit bummed out that I wasn't able to go to the Pride Parade in the Village today because I'm not that comfortable or completely out yet. But maybe next year!
     
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    Congrats man. That is a big step. I'm so happy for you that it went so well. Now you can truly enjoy your summer.
     
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    Amazing! Coming out is nevr an easy thing to do, so I am glad it went well for you!
     
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