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An old fart's coming out story!

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by Mickey, Aug 26, 2008.

  1. Mickey

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    Well...I am 46 (almost 47) years old.

    When I came out,thing's were a lot worse for gay people. (my opinion)
    It was 1978,I was 16 and there were very little to no resources to help us.
    My mom,of course,thought it was a faze.( I think most parents do!)
    She told me...(now get this!) if I had more straight friends,instead of all
    gay ones,I wouldn't feel the way I did! (we laugh at this NOW!)
    My dad was better about it. I think he kinda knew.( He caught me with his Playboys!)
    Anyway..I didn't come out at school,but was outed by someone I had trusted.
    To say that I got harassed is an understatement. I got called all the usual names,got pushed around,punched,spit at,etc.
    Finally,I couldn't take it anymore,so I quit school. That sucked because I only had another year to go. I did end up getting my G.E.D. the following year.
    Then a friend I'd had since I was a little kid,freaked out and that was the end of that.
    That wasn't so bad,she was kinda a jerk,anyway!
    Next came the rest of the family. My brothers were cool about it.
    2 of my sisters were,too.The oldest one told me I was sick and (this part hurt the most)
    that I was NOT allowed around her daughter(my own niece,for God sake!)
    As time went by,my mom came to grips with it.(I think it was when I got my first girlfriend!) Now she's very accepting(years later) and even flips out when anyone puts down gay people!
    For all you that have had such a bad time with coming out,I'm so sorry.
    Thing's WILL get better. Maybe not with some people,but within YOURSELF.
    I know it's hard,but stay true to who you are. You Will find the happiness you deserve.
    I will continue to be here,now that I found EC and if anyone needs to talk,or vent or whatever,please feel free to PM me.
    With LOVE & Pride, Mickey*****:smilewave
     
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    Welcome Mickey! I'm a 46 year old (almost 47) Mom of a gay son. Thanks for sharing your story. It gives hope to those whose parents may not take it so well at first. Eventually things get better most of the time!
     
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    Welcome aboard Mickey !!:smilewave
     
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    Hi Mickey. Welcome to EC from another of the over-40 crowd. Thanks for sharing your story.
     
  5. Welcome! That's good how your mom eventually came to grips with it.
     
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    Thanks for sharing your story.
     
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    Teen coming out stories are helpful, but adult coming out stories always seem more fun.
     
  8. Psychedelic Bookmarks

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    Cool! Thanks for joining and sharing Mickey! We don't have any older lesbians here yet so you're filling an important position! *lol* But you'll find we have a lot of crazy younger girlies here... :grin: Welcome!
     
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    Welcome! And thank you for the story =) It is so nice to see that things can all work out in the end!
     
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    Welcome!! :grin: Great story. (*hug*)
     
  11. Mickey

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    Thanks everyone! What a nice welcome! This is a great site and I'm so glad I found it.
    I don't mind being "the old fart" here!
    I think that it's wonderful how so many people reach out to help,or just talk to,others.
    I will be here,to just say hi or to respond to other posts. I hope my "experiences" will be of SOME use to someone! :::Laugh:::