Wel, mine is not that bad but now i think she doesnt like who i am

How often do you mention gay subjects? Do you ever bring boys home? What I suppose I'm trying to figure out is how big of an issue "being gay" is for you and her.

It's likely that the more 'gay aspects' to your life there are, the more she'll be forced to talk about it. Right now it seems she's doing the whole "If i dont talk about it, then it doesn't exist" phase that some parents tend to do. Try talk to her about it more. Present situations where she needs to talk about it with you (such as talking to her about gay friends, boyfriends, gay meetings etc).

If she doesn't come around and still refuses to acknowledge it then perhaps a change of strategy is needed.

 

There's usually a period of adjustment between when you've told a parent to when they can actually talk about it without flinching. Have you tried contacting your local FFLAG group in the UK? (They are called PFLAG in Canada and the US.) It's a support group for parents and family of lesbian and gay people... and yeah, you're not a parent but they might have some suggestions for you. If you can get your mum to a meeting... that would be cool.

Barring that, you could try telling her you don't want the two of you to not be able to talk about stuff and that it's really important for you to be able to tell her certain things. I think it's pretty hard for parents to claim they don't want to be closer to their children... so if you phrase it the right way, it might hit a chord with her. Most parents I know of complain about how their teenagers WON'T talk to them.

But yeah check out FFLAG... I think the website's www.fflag.org.uk

Oh wait... are you in Birmingham in the UK or Birmingham Alabama? Hmmn... well if you're in the States, check out PFLAG at www.pflag.org

 

Birmingham, UK (he mentioned UK in a PM to me).