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So, I came out!

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by blueyoshi3, Jul 5, 2014.

  1. blueyoshi3

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    I did it about two months ago, and honestly, I have NEVER felt better. I'm just feel like the biggest burden I've ever had has been lifted off of my shoulders!

    What pushed me to do it?

    Well, one day, I got so sick of lying about who I was. My best friend (A girl) and I always are around each other. Attached at the hip. Well, EVERYBODY thought we were in a relationship with each other! I just eventually got so sick of letting this secret control my life, I decided to not. I took the bull by the horns and went for it. I'd had three friends that knew about it and she was one of them. She of course laughed at the idea of us having a relationship all the time because of that XD But, basic idea was I was out to a select three. I wanted more than that because I took a good long hard look at my future, and I saw me going to Prom alone. Me missing so many opportunities and getting started so late in the game. Me having to lie to people every day until I got rid of the weight on my shoulders. I could either do it sooner or later.

    Here's how I went about it

    My friend decided to help me out. I knew I really only wanted to tell the people who cared about me first, so I thought to see who cared about me. My friend and I color coordinated our outfits to make the thought of us NOT in a relationship even more ridiculous. People would ask or mention it, and I would tell them. So, most of my friends asked, and I simply took them aside and told them.

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    My family was just fine with it. My sister cried for like an hour because she thought she had known me, and she felt hurt that I had told others before her (She used to be my closest friend, but we grew apart as I matured and she didn't). I simply assured her I was the same person as she always knew, and that nothing had changed within me. I hadn't dated before, and now I would. My friends at school were all 100% okay with it (I live in a largely Mormon area, and they don't enjoy that kind of thing). Everything I had previously feared had yet to come true. I can honestly say that I'm so glad I have such supportive people around me when I realize that a lot of people don't.

    Overall, it went really well. I'm one of the lucky few who had an accepting family and support group. Even my crush took it pretty well. (Maybe not when I told him about my feelings, but that's a thing of the past). My advice? I didn't have much of a struggle. It's hard at first, but it gets easier, and it's a never ending process with every new person you meet. It took me four years, and it was more becoming comfortable with it myself than it was with other people. Don't do it until you're ready, and believe me. You'll know when you're ready :slight_smile:
     
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    Congrats dude, thats great, a very happy for you :slight_smile::icon_bigg
     
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    i've got 2 things to say:
    1: congrats!
    2: wow you're really brave with telling your crush how you feel. do you still talk to him or is it awkward now?
     
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    This is an amazing story. Thanks a lot for sharing, and congratulations, dude! It's definitely an awesome feeling when your coming out goes well!
     
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    He basically told me to stay away from him and that I had crossed the line. I figured I had nothing to lose. We weren't very close to start with. Now I know who he really is. There's also tons more behind that story though o.o
     
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    ... What he said makes him sound like an butt, to be honest. :confused:
     
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    i agree with Nychthemeron- he does sound like a butt, and he sure as hell doesn't deserve your butt.
     
  8. Congradulations!!! So happy for you :slight_smile:
     
  9. blueyoshi3

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    Thanks, and you guys are right o.o I should've realized that MUCH sooner.
     
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    Glad it went well for you. Good stuff.
     
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    Congrats~! ^.^
     
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    Congrats! :slight_smile:
     
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    Congratulations, I'm glad it went well :slight_smile:
     
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    Thanks for sharing your coming out story. Glad that your coming out went well. Congratulations on your coming out journey!
     
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    Awesome!! Congrats on coming out~~
     
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    That was a clever plan.

    Congrats on coming out :slight_smile: